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Brothers: make sure that every touch between you and your wife does not come with the expectation of sex. Establish a deeper level of intimacy by employing the sensual, not the sexual.
When a woman feels that she should only expect intimacy if she is willing/able to have sex, it removes pleasure from the act itself. It limits connections and can cause a fraying of the relationship. Many men don’t realize this until it’s too late.
And please do not say that in Islam a man has a right to sex from his wife. This is a mutual right for both partners. Women have a right to be pleased and fulfilled as well.
When sexual rights in marriage are weaponized or used as bargaining chips, it can create a tiny fissure in the marriage. Soon the foundation may begin to crumble.
When sex becomes transactional in a relationship, a woman can easily divest from the relationship. She may be present, but she may not be ‘there’. Pressure creates cracks, brothers.
Touch her intentionally and with tenderness. Anticipate bonding, not penetration.
