Thread by @sisilisme

We live in a cruel, harsh era where people no longer using their mouth to criticize, but they use their thumbs to mock, insult, hate others.

We often criticize & judge someone's body by the look of the picture.
Welcome to the social media world, where BODY SHAMING is everywhere

Long before there is Instagram or Twitter. I look at television and seeing celebrities & models seem to have a flawless face, legs and body.
I often question myself when I was a kid "Will I look like that when I grow up? Will I have a slim figure, elongated legs and pretty face?"

I thought everyone at some point will look like that. I thought being slim is how we should look like in order to be accepted and normal.

My mom told me when I was in 6th grade "Look at your thighs... Oh my God, why you already have stretch marks, you look like a preggo mom"

And I was confuse and down. "Oh should I get rid of this? Is this not normal?"
She handed me a cream to put on my thighs everyday, hoping that it'll go away.

Growing up, one of my friends got bullied. I never know that it is "a thing"
I, thankfully, never got bullied.-

-But, really, why people do that?
Oh wait, maybe I used to be too harsh on people, and I often get commented on that. "My tongue is sharp as a knife," they said. I'm sorry, old friends if I ever hurt your feeling. I learned and I grow up as a different person now.

As I get older, turns out I didn't grow up as I thought I would be.
I don't have a slim figure, no elongated legs, no flawless face.
And as I grow older, I start to notice nobody looks like those perfect celebrities yet... my auntie told me-

-"Why you're getting fatter and fatter every year? Careful, nobody is going to marry you if you're too fat" that's what she said when we're gathering for Eid Mubarak right after we say "Minal aidin wal faidzin, I apologize for every mistake I've done to you this year"

Apologize, my ass. You apologize and then you shame me right after that? Oh come on!
If I was harsh enough to reply, I'd say "Um... excuse me auntie, your tummy is actually gasping for air inside that tight clothes. So don't tell me that I'm fat when you're the one who's fatter"

But I stayed silent. I carry that word in me for years. For a reminder, that not all people are kind, even your closest family can hurt your feeling.

I start to losing weight. I have this urge to look good in the next eid mubarak, for the sake of "Oh you look slimmer"

And yeah as you may all predicted, it didn't work out. That revenge-short term goal wasn't do anything for me. I still feel bad about myself and for some reason I forgot that goal.
Fuck it. I'm just gonna be me.

Fast forward to now, I'm surrounding myself to a kind circle-

I decided to always put myself in a good, positive society where I don't have to feel insecure about myself and I can just be me and spreading loves & kindness.

but still... there will be people who bully you so much and you can't help it.

In the social media era, body shaming can happen 24/7. People don't even have to speak through their mouth, but they use their thumbs--which is easier to bully people.
People harshly criticize you and they feel okay with it because they DON'T know you.

They probably think, "That's alright, s/he doesn't know me anyway. What can they do?" Yes, they use fake accounts. They hide their photos, they are anonymous.
They spread negative energy, like viruses they spread wider and wider and causing disease to our precious mind.

THIS IS NOT OKAY.

But how do you deal with it?
how do you deal with such negativity?
Do you choose to save yourself from them and ignore?
Or they get into you and stress you out?
Are you allowing them to ruin your day?
Are you allowing them to ruin your life?

This is what I want you to do next time stranger body-shame you online:
1. Allowing your emotion to come.
Are you feeling sad when people call you ugly? Then cry. Cry out loud
Are you mad at them? Then be angry.
Allowing your emotion to come out loud. Enjoy your emotion.

Why? Because bottling it up won't help!
Shout their name to your mobile screen, "FUCK YOU ANJENG!"
Cry yourself out for a minute
And after that, trust me you'll feel free. You'll feel better and that virus comes out of your system, and you'll be okay.

2. Block them.
No, you don't need more negative energy in your life. So bye, thank u, next.

3. Laugh at them.
"HAHA YOU TRASH" when you look at their profile, hey at least laughing makes you happy ;)

4. Pity them.
You may notice they probably don't have a better life than you.

5. Breathe, meditate, turn off your phone.
Let the good oxygen fills your body.
Look at your real life and turn off your phone. You deserve time-off. You deserve to rest and get out of the cruel world.
You deserve to look at yourself in the mirror and say "I'm amazing"

Those 5 things are actually what I do to tackle all the body-shaming issues I receive from people in real life or in social media life.

Oh don't tell me I don't get bullied. Look at my Youtube comments and see how harsh and rude people can be with their thumbs.

But will I allowing them to get inside me? NO FUCKING WAY.
I'm amazing in my own way and I'm gonna remind myself every-fucking-day.

So bitch, don't think you can stop me. I'm too fabulous!

Oh btw, I just made a video about this. A video where you can watch while you're pooping or when you're feeling off.
It's a podcast type of video where you just have to listen, without even watching.
Hope you guys inspired:

THANKS, LOVES ❤️

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