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my mind is circling around a subset of 'theory of internet socializing in the context of fb groups / subreddits" and i'm coming to realize that most people are not worth your time – and/but that's probably something each person will have to independently discover for themselves
my ex-boss gently tried to explain this to me for years but i adamantly refused to believe him. i was always convinced that there have to be people outside of my echo chambers and bubbles who must be of immense value. that's actually a non-sequitur. both statements are correct
smart game is to optimize for referrals. eg say you have 100 friends. rather than try to meet 100 new people blind, you should meet your 100 friends, identify the best 5-10 of them (whatever that means to you), and then develop yourself so those people refer you to THEIR friends
if you do this recursively – say your 5 friends each refer you to their five "best" friends in turn (again, however you define this) – the 20-25 new friends you make through this process will be on average 5x-100x more valuable to you than if you met people at random. repeat! 🤯
I don't actually do this in a mechanical or soulless way, I just loosely keep it in the back of my mind. already it has led me to meet some of the most impressive (to me) people in the *world*. I do still meet & chat with randos, obviously, see my tweets
