me: ...those are two different things? which is it? are you poly or are you just casually dating?
dude: no i'm poly because i don't want to be tied down to 1 woman
me: so you want to be 'tied down' to 3?
me: but you would have to be emotionally present for multiple women. like, you'd have to be a good boyfriend to MORE than one woman if you have poly relationships
dude: i don't want to be a bf
me: then ur not poly
but stoppppppit my crops are dying