Thread by @TW_Beckett

“How do you know she’s cheating on you?”

- acts distant / distracted
- too busy for you / puts you off
- lack of enthusiasm about you
- short, quick communication
- changes plans or doesn’t make future ones with you
- hangs out with her friends more
- dishonest with you

Cont’d:

- more interest in her phone
- sex life tanks with you
- changes hairstyle / dresses nicer when she goes out “with the girls”
- defensiveness
- anxious / nervous / guilty
- body language is “off”
- doesn’t look you in the eye
- lack of communication on her whereabouts

After a talk with my friend today about his pending divorce, he was able to check off most of these boxes.

His wife cheated on him and he found out via one of her friends.

You need to seriously talk to your spouse if these are showing up.

He noticed an abrupt change in her behavior.

Became distant.

Short, defensive, and uncomfortable around him.

Tried to play off strange phone calls.

Started hanging with her “friends” more.

Her friends knew and many attempted to cover for her.

The one thing that many guys do is that once they’re in a committed relationship, they let off the gas.

You CANNOT do this.

My friend let himself go and his wife started getting in shape, not for him, but for her eventual lover.

In order to drive her attraction of you, you must continue to make yourself the best you can.

And why stop?

Doesn’t your mate deserve you at your best?

Does a woman stray on a man who’s working out, staying sharp, and getting better?

Hell to the no.

Getting into a relationship shouldn’t be an excuse to stop improving.

Women love a man who is better when compared to other men.

My friend dropped the ball and let it roll.

The marriage was the catalyst for his decline.

“Welp, she loves me for me, so...”

When your significant other sees you, they should see a man on a mission.

Physically fit, mentally sharp, purposefully indulgent, and they should adore that.

Pursue you even after they have you, because they know you are the man who won’t stop.

A relationship should never be an end to the effort.

It should be the continuity of your full, amazing life.

And men by the millions, just like my buddy, drop the ball.

They fail to understand that they can’t stop because they got the girl.

They must go harder.

She’s going to be out there, around other guys.

Do you want her thinking about you and your amazing physique, attitude, leadership, and drive?

The best way to prevent cheating is to be better than the field.

She won’t cheat when she knows she has the best.

“Til death do you part.”

You die a little more everyday when you stop working on you in all ways.

And her love for you dies a little more.

Yes, a cheater is a cheater. My friend didn’t deserve to be cheated on.

But he didn’t help his cause by failing to game his wife.

This isn’t saying that she “will cheat if given the chance.”

But why tempt fate when just taking care of yourself will improve your marriage by a mile?

And if she cheats regardless?

Then you made a bad choice in partner.

But knowing you’re an attractive person who continues to work will make it easier to find the next girl and keep her.

Vetting only gets you so far. You still have to put in the work and accept your failure if you made a bad choice.

This goes both ways and goes for ANY relationship.

What you put in is what you get.

Why should she tolerate your lack of work if you wouldn’t tolerate her being lazy, out of shape, etc.

It’s too late for my friend in this relationship.

But it’s not too late for him to grab his life and take back control.

A man in calm, quiet, commanding control of his life is the sexiest thing ever for a woman.

Not many woman cheat on a man with his shit together.

You CANNOT rely on shitty inertia in your marriage / relationship.

You’re asking for trouble.

My buddy will be fine.

Lesson learned.

Don’t fall into this trap.

It will cost you.