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All my life, I have used public buses in Karachi and many a times touched inappropriately while coming to home from college. What did I do? Get myself covered in a bigger chadar. Took a scarf. Took my brother with me to the bus stops. Wore lose clothes.
All my life, I have used public buses in Karachi and many a times touched inappropriately while coming to home from college. What did I do? Get myself covered in a bigger chadar. Took a scarf. Took my brother with me to the bus stops. Wore lose clothes.
The harassment didn't stop. I thought guilty of myself. I felt bad about my body. When I first started working, I was a young enthusiastic student full of hopes and dreams for a better future. I wanted to work to gain financial independence.
I was an innocent, naive person with ideas in my head like I will stop working when I get married (Because the society taught me so). My first experience of harassment came at my first workplace. He was the most sweetest boy of office. Innocent-looking, full sunnat bearded man.
Always clad in a kurta-shalwar. He was my Boss's assistant. His name was Muhammad Abdullah. My Boss used to sit in another office than mine, and sometimes we went there for sales meetings and etc and had to work at his assistant's desk if he needed something.
The guy used to sit besides me and touch me inappropriately. I was a 25 year old, modern, educated woman who could have just slapped him but what did I do? DID NOTHING. I froze in embarrassment. I didnt tell anyone about this.
I was triggered, hurt, pained but I didnt tell my parents because I believed they will stop me from going to work and I didnt want to lose that job. I didnt tell my Boss, because I was a phattoo and I feared people gossiping about me after this incident will bring me bad name
I didnt want my character assasination. So, I suffered in silence.Until one day, another guy from office called me and confronted me because he had seen the video clips from CCTV footage.Mind you,while he ierrogated,he used all foul language that made me shiver into embarrassment
He then told me how many other women of the office came out against him. He was a sick bastard who used to watch the ladies when they took their abaya's off in a small secluded room, when they used to go to the washroom, he used to peep through the roshandaan placed above
I was petrified. My boss called me. Confronted me. Asked me why I never told him this? I was silent. In tears. I had no answer. He knew I trusted him. He said I was like his own daughter. He was angry because nobody could make his daughter feel so bad.
He called Abdullah to his room. Scolded him, slapped him and told him he is a disgrace to the humanity. He fired him immediately. Abdullah said sorry to me and left. I was shaking in rage. I came back to my own office.
Didnt talk about this to anyone, until the next day I got to know Abdullah was placed in boss's friend's office like any other ordinary respectable person. Abdullah needed financial help so wasnt robbed off work. He wasnt given any threats. Sub drama tha. Mujhe ullu banaya gaya
Men like, Abdullah are the reason #WhyIMarch. Men like my boss are the reason, women dont trust men because till the time men dont gang up against the atrocities against women, no fuckin aurat march will be enough.
Till the time, men aren't held responsible for their ghatya behaviours, our daughters will always be unsafe. I hope, we have an environment where my son doesn't make any woman uncomfortable no matter what the woman is wearing.
I have never talked about this to anyone. This happened 8-9 years back and I am still shivering writing of all this. I am still raged on the fact k mene us haramkhor k chehre pe chappal kyun nahi maari? Mene react kyun nahin kia? I FEEL ANGRY.
I feel angry at all men who have the audacity to come into my inbox and ask me if i want to see their dicks. NO HARAMKHOR NO. I feel angry at all men who slide into our DMs and tell us they will pay us if we sleep with them. No kanjar, no.
I feel belittled by the men of my times who think "DICK PICS APNE PAAS RAKHO" is offensive. Haramkhoro, jub tumhari apni LOT Karachi university k main gate pe kharae ho k apni shalwarein utaar k humare samne apne dicks flash karte hain, tab kyun nahi kehte #NotAllMen
I feel raged up when women are asked to control their husbands by being "tayyar all the time". No. Its not a woman's job to keep guarding her husband. Its the husband's responsibility to guard his chastity and be loyal to the marriage vow he made.
I find it offensive when the women of the families tell a man to marry again b/c his wife isnt giving their family a son. Kon se ROYAL NAWABS hain aap jo apko nasal chalani hai apni? K ap ka naam lewa na raha toh ap rull jaenge? XY CHROMOSOME mard se aata hai lekin zulm aurat pe?
I find it derogatory when women are asked to "build their home" even when they find their husbands cheating on their backs. WHY? A man, in a marital relationship cant go on and have affairs. Mard ki bewafai maafi k qaabil kyun hai? Why arent men enraged on this?
I find it shameful that men have to resort to tactics"Maa-baap k ghar jana band hai tumhara" if they want to punish their women because salan mein namak taiz tha? Why kind of fragile male ego is this? Why arent you triggered when your father is harassing your wife in ur home?
Why are ghairat-mand mard NOT triggered when girls are abducted and forced converted into Islam in interior Sindh? When girls are paraded naked in DI Khan because they want to take revenge from the male members of her family? When there are 3800 CHILD ABUSE CASES REPORTED?
Why are the ghairat mand people of my country not triggered when the leader of an international child pornography gang gets arrested from Rawalpindi. Why dont you talk about this? When Zainab gets raped. When huznoor gets raped? Why this doesnt bother you but #AuratMarch does
We need allies in feminism. We need men besides us. We need you to make us safe and comfortable. We cant win this battle alone by hating men. We have had enough. We need to come together to end the gender disparity amongst both sexes. Please come and support us.
“To sin by silence when they should protest makes cowards of men.” – Abraham Lincoln
جس دور میں جینا مشکل ہو، اس دور میں جینا لازم ہے!
