Thread by @YousXP

🎭 a brief guide to complementing others

authentic & a power move VS artificial forced rapport & approval seeking

(Thread) 👇🏼

Notice the words POWER & FORCE in the previous tweet

How & Why you’re complimenting someone revels if it’s

🔹Genuine (sharing good vibes)
🔹Artificial (some sort of ulterior motive)

🔵 Power Move Compliments

You’re happy with yourself
You’re happy with your life

Making you a person of value

Meaning you don’t NEED to FORCE people into your life

You aren’t doing backwards cartwheels trying to impress people

🔑 It is in this energy you free up mental bandwidth 🧠

You’re not REACHNG for ways to connect, or the right things to say

With this free mental bandwidth you become more engaged, awareness of what’s happening in front of you

🔑 Because you’re not stuck in your head planning the right move

...and it is in this energy your compliments feel genuine and they hit home

🔑 And here is the big key

With your heightened presence and engagement, with the person in front of you

🎭 You observe and make PEOPLE compliments NOT mask compliments

Complimenting the person versus complimenting the mask

(Mask): Thats a nice dress
(Person): I like your style

👗 Physical thing anyone can get, not unique to them, no thought or connection in the compliment

📸 With a famous person. Especially someone who exaggerates a character

(Mask): I love your videos

(Person): I love how your able to use metaphors and tie in such abstract ideas into one big home run epiphany

*side tangent- if the famous person is very authentic in their brand and not much of a character

and if they take pride in their work

then complimenting the work is ok.

but for someone playing a character it’s complimenting their mask and not their core being

🧬 The formula of a genuine compliment 🧬

1 - You don’t need or want anything from them

Your life is good. But something about them....the person, genuinely impressed you

2 - Because you aren’t all in your head trying to connect to them or get some sort of result

> You free up mental bandwidth <

👁 Activating presence and engagement. Ability to see and feel deeper

Meaning you can really focus in on THEM, what they’re saying, their vibe, what their feeling

In this frame you tend to naturally compliment the person and not the mask

🔴 I’m not a fan of inauthentic compliments

It’s almost disrespectful to the other person

1 You’re either lying. Gives off a pity vibe

2 Or its using them

Faking a connection to get some sort of validation back, or get something outta them

😬 Attempting to forced a connection to then leverage for gain (creepy)

Using them as a tool. A gage of self worth or as entry to some sort of gain (sexual, financial, etc)

Compliment genuinely

You can still give off good vibes without complimenting

Jokes, observations, stories, wit

> But authenticity is what people crave in a world gradually becoming superficial <