So much to unpack here
Thankfully I experienced the opposite in my own residency
BUT then I was unprepared for this after residency
When described this way by faculty, then can a woman really choose to describe herself similar to men without invoking backlash and social cost?
Thankfully I experienced the opposite in my own residency
BUT then I was unprepared for this after residency
When described this way by faculty, then can a woman really choose to describe herself similar to men without invoking backlash and social cost?
The word choices here are signaling values
difference in what valued by gender and it predicts this later
expected of women:
special favors
emotional labor
friendship behaviors
constant availability
leniency
can women hold others accountable?
insidehighered.com/news/2018/01/1…
difference in what valued by gender and it predicts this later
expected of women:
special favors
emotional labor
friendship behaviors
constant availability
leniency
can women hold others accountable?
insidehighered.com/news/2018/01/1…
This extends to direct reports too. What if one stops bringing snacks, being maternal (the giving tree)?
Is it fair to make it a women’s job, already overburdened and underpaid, to support other women?
Or can there be accountability & standards?
qz.com/work/1722398/w…
Is it fair to make it a women’s job, already overburdened and underpaid, to support other women?
Or can there be accountability & standards?
qz.com/work/1722398/w…
Not much data on this but it is an interesting trend
slate.com/human-interest…
“children are more likely to be blond than adults, meaning the trait signals youthfulness... judged to be less independent-minded and less willing take a stand”
Care for others vs independent mind
slate.com/human-interest…
“children are more likely to be blond than adults, meaning the trait signals youthfulness... judged to be less independent-minded and less willing take a stand”
Care for others vs independent mind
When can a woman be a person?
Without it being relational?
(Including to other women?)
It’s the system’s job to support women, men, Black, LatinX, disabled, neurodiverse, etc.
If think of Black faculty
all the “diversity” mentoring/recruitment put on them
Without it being relational?
(Including to other women?)
It’s the system’s job to support women, men, Black, LatinX, disabled, neurodiverse, etc.
If think of Black faculty
all the “diversity” mentoring/recruitment put on them
Yes, sponsorship is necessary & needed
But if that sponsorship is predicated on “daughter” role
then that contributes to broken rung, glass ceiling, & glass cliff
because transaction/exchange:
I open this door for you
You flatter my ego & I look good
forbes.com/sites/kellyhoe…
But if that sponsorship is predicated on “daughter” role
then that contributes to broken rung, glass ceiling, & glass cliff
because transaction/exchange:
I open this door for you
You flatter my ego & I look good
forbes.com/sites/kellyhoe…
If men are defined by quantifiable metrics like publications & procedures
women valued for relationships
=set up for this gender disparity in negotiation - only one gender can be direct about power & merit while other must manipulate perception
psychologytoday.com/us/blog/family…
women valued for relationships
=set up for this gender disparity in negotiation - only one gender can be direct about power & merit while other must manipulate perception
psychologytoday.com/us/blog/family…
I post this a lot: a woman, likely a mother, who looks depleted, has destroyed herself for a (male) child. This political cartoonist often depicts inequity, injustice. This executive instead sees “beautiful.”
His perception of female merit matches descriptions in 1st tweet.
His perception of female merit matches descriptions in 1st tweet.
Let’s make this real
He has that image in his mind
He’s interviewing a woman
She negotiates salary
She asks for an admin assistant
How will he react?
She is hired & holds someone accountable
How will he react?
She identifies a gender pay gap & writes budget to equalize....
He has that image in his mind
He’s interviewing a woman
She negotiates salary
She asks for an admin assistant
How will he react?
She is hired & holds someone accountable
How will he react?
She identifies a gender pay gap & writes budget to equalize....
Focus on race in Amy Cooper incident. But in fact it is both race & gender
A seemingly powerful female executive
invoked a damsel in distress position of vulnerability & fear rather than a direct 1:1 response.
It fits the same pattern of of what society rewards women for
A seemingly powerful female executive
invoked a damsel in distress position of vulnerability & fear rather than a direct 1:1 response.
It fits the same pattern of of what society rewards women for
Look at past history & current stats for Black (BIPOC) women & girls - from experimentation on black women during slavery without pain control or girls treated today
So separate from whether women *should* be described in relational terms
Who excluded?
So separate from whether women *should* be described in relational terms
Who excluded?
So, whose distress matters?
Whose not even seen?
If nature of female merit or advancement is relational (mother, daughter, nurturing)
If nature of protection is perception of distress or vulnerability via relational power
Then among women, race matters
aarp.org/politics-socie…
Whose not even seen?
If nature of female merit or advancement is relational (mother, daughter, nurturing)
If nature of protection is perception of distress or vulnerability via relational power
Then among women, race matters
aarp.org/politics-socie…
I don’t see this considered as to why there is a “broken rung.” As women gain confidence, skills, expertise, & are less youthful...
...does the “feel good” nature of #HeforShe sponsorship change?
Is there a willingness to support young women
Then an ego & career threat later?
...does the “feel good” nature of #HeforShe sponsorship change?
Is there a willingness to support young women
Then an ego & career threat later?
Now we hear men are afraid to sponsor or mentor women
What drives this fear?
Are they afraid of their actual behavior & being held accountable?
Is their fear of false accusation?
Well, what if we had a more fair system instead of relationship-based?
marketwatch.com/amp/story/men-…
What drives this fear?
Are they afraid of their actual behavior & being held accountable?
Is their fear of false accusation?
Well, what if we had a more fair system instead of relationship-based?
marketwatch.com/amp/story/men-…
I think of this often - how does this fit in today?
You don’t take a daughter or mom to a strip club
= becoming “one of the guys” & a *direct* power broker
You probably can trust she won’t sue on gender discrimination cuz her “brand” is “I am tough”
bizjournals.com/bizwomen/news/…
You don’t take a daughter or mom to a strip club
= becoming “one of the guys” & a *direct* power broker
You probably can trust she won’t sue on gender discrimination cuz her “brand” is “I am tough”
bizjournals.com/bizwomen/news/…
Where does that leave women today?
If female CEOs “leaned in” & “toughed out” culture of objectifying women in order to be taken seriously & “be in the room”
Vs
daughter/relational role of token position without power
What if one wants merit recognized
AND
Accountability?
If female CEOs “leaned in” & “toughed out” culture of objectifying women in order to be taken seriously & “be in the room”
Vs
daughter/relational role of token position without power
What if one wants merit recognized
AND
Accountability?
Where in that dynamic is there a solution for the growing gender pay gap in medicine, more pronounced for Black women?
Indirect, subjective relational power is more damaged by confrontation or negotiation as opposed to power through metrics of merit.
time.com/5566602/doctor…
Indirect, subjective relational power is more damaged by confrontation or negotiation as opposed to power through metrics of merit.
time.com/5566602/doctor…
#Pandemic is bringing into focus longstanding issue of unpaid physical & emotional labor of women, often relational - child care, elder care, home care, organizing social life, holiday prep
If residencies describe female graduates by “care” = unpaid
nytimes.com/2020/05/20/us/…
If residencies describe female graduates by “care” = unpaid
nytimes.com/2020/05/20/us/…
Even amongst the things that are more easily quantified like publications
the need for women’s (unpaid) care at home is squeezing out productivity
by home I also include elder care and community care
then how does a woman prove her merit?
nature.com/articles/d4158…
the need for women’s (unpaid) care at home is squeezing out productivity
by home I also include elder care and community care
then how does a woman prove her merit?
nature.com/articles/d4158…
Among aspects of “care” is being person w/ so-called “EQ” or “soft skills” to soften & smooth out after controversy
Yet we hear from #innovation world that “#disruption” is what is valued
When are women allowed to be #disruptive forces themselves?
time.com/5827448/birx-t…
Yet we hear from #innovation world that “#disruption” is what is valued
When are women allowed to be #disruptive forces themselves?
time.com/5827448/birx-t…
A thread on the word #disruptive, connotations, and whether it is a signal of something harmful
or whether it should be expanded to be claimed by women & activists as well
my vote: latter
let me at the taken LEGO pieces
to break old
then rebuild new
or whether it should be expanded to be claimed by women & activists as well
my vote: latter
let me at the taken LEGO pieces
to break old
then rebuild new
Did you reacted to the word “break”
sounds violent & destructive
unladylike
But sometimes it is a zero sum game for resources
where it is not always possible to grow new resources
you have to reallocate from existing resources
as is already happening
amp.cnn.com/cnn/2020/04/21…
sounds violent & destructive
unladylike
But sometimes it is a zero sum game for resources
where it is not always possible to grow new resources
you have to reallocate from existing resources
as is already happening
amp.cnn.com/cnn/2020/04/21…
Go back to the first tweet. Which gender was associated with the word “novel”
Can we stop blaming women for having “#impostersyndrome” when this is actively taught to them at every stage of their career?
#womeninSTEM #womenintech #womeninleadership
cbc.ca/news/technolog…
Can we stop blaming women for having “#impostersyndrome” when this is actively taught to them at every stage of their career?
#womeninSTEM #womenintech #womeninleadership
cbc.ca/news/technolog…
If not #innovation, #disruptive, #novel
where are women “dominating”?
#compliance
=painstakingly detailed work
to police others’ behaviors
according to the rules
that already exist
fixed, not growth, #mindset
=
Don’t
Stop
Shame, shame
Not creative
law.com/corpcounsel/20…
where are women “dominating”?
#compliance
=painstakingly detailed work
to police others’ behaviors
according to the rules
that already exist
fixed, not growth, #mindset
=
Don’t
Stop
Shame, shame
Not creative
law.com/corpcounsel/20…
What is another word for compliance?
risk management
what holds back #womeninleadership?
Risk tolerance
“instead of playing to win, they’re often playing not to lose”
Safest place is middle of pack/herd
Safety vs leadership
#womeninSTEM #womenintech
info.kpmg.us/news-perspecti…
risk management
what holds back #womeninleadership?
Risk tolerance
“instead of playing to win, they’re often playing not to lose”
Safest place is middle of pack/herd
Safety vs leadership
#womeninSTEM #womenintech
info.kpmg.us/news-perspecti…
I also have compliance background
Note I painstakingly laid out point by point w/ evidence (probably lost many who initially interested)
if still with me, h/t @DrHarryThomas
men are confidently less precise when seeking to win competitive funding
nature.com/articles/d4158…
Note I painstakingly laid out point by point w/ evidence (probably lost many who initially interested)
if still with me, h/t @DrHarryThomas
men are confidently less precise when seeking to win competitive funding
nature.com/articles/d4158…
not women holding selves back
when applying to @MITSloanFellows a mentor said
I had “too much potential”
to “hit walls”
declined to support my application
1-If there is a wall, let me at it
(like my refugee health work)
2-I don’t mind failing
I got in
Wall was in *his* mind
when applying to @MITSloanFellows a mentor said
I had “too much potential”
to “hit walls”
declined to support my application
1-If there is a wall, let me at it
(like my refugee health work)
2-I don’t mind failing
I got in
Wall was in *his* mind
Why I wonder if is the so-called sponsors & mentors
who are barriers/limiting boundaries
broken rung
at midcareer
Had I been compliant, docile, accepted
his definition
of my accomplishments to date
I would have gone quiet
not applied
I pivoted
found other support
succeeded
who are barriers/limiting boundaries
broken rung
at midcareer
Had I been compliant, docile, accepted
his definition
of my accomplishments to date
I would have gone quiet
not applied
I pivoted
found other support
succeeded
I’m really curious thinking on first tweet
how many women & men
those descriptions passed thru
to get printed
How many people did not choose to speak up
did not disrupt
quietly stood back
Who allowed women’s worth to be defined
documented
by things we do not pay for
=pay gap
how many women & men
those descriptions passed thru
to get printed
How many people did not choose to speak up
did not disrupt
quietly stood back
Who allowed women’s worth to be defined
documented
by things we do not pay for
=pay gap
@threadreaderapp please unroll. Thanks
In full disclosure this update I just saw. Nonetheless, rest still stands. I’d be curious to see if women get described with “novel” - residency grad descriptions would be a great to apply AI and NLP to to quantify the subjective. #womeninSTEM
Additional context from @jackie_parchem
The original post now has over 300 retweets.
We do tend to rely on proxies instead of vetting & verifying. Good opportunity: remember to pause.
So original post may be less illustrative. Rest of thread stands.
The original post now has over 300 retweets.
We do tend to rely on proxies instead of vetting & verifying. Good opportunity: remember to pause.
So original post may be less illustrative. Rest of thread stands.
