Thread by @GZzyzyx

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Actually thats true.

The brain can be convinced that voices are happening when they’re not, amputated limbs are present, physical impossibilities are real, and its all because of two trainable parts of our wiring: The subconscious and the logical processing center. 🧵
#Painless

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Some people need help w physical processes for birth and thats okay and good and normal and I’m thankful for #Science and the #medicalcommunity which makes assistance and even accessibility better for everybody.
All birth stories are good.
You can not fuck up birth…

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes There ARE things we can do to prepare for the physical, mental, and environmental challenges that will be unexpected, change very quickly, and involve a complete loss of control which you just kinda have to TRUST won’t kill you. Birth is like falling asleep w trust you won’t die.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes And the truth is
YOU DO DIE.
This is why childbirth
is so hard for a lot of people.
#MomsFearBabies
like Biden’s PR team fears boobs.
Its messy, costs $, takes sex away, takes time away from your current loved ones, maybe even might literally risk your life.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes The birth of the #mom
Comes with a loaded diaper experience of childhood trauma from your own parents issues growing up, processing the psychological walk on the fence, and this change in the brain is a MAJOR physical obstacle.
Your brain chemistry shrinks grey matter.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Whatever tools you can enrich your birth experience with are gonna help.
Whatever custom needs there are,
early identification makes processing the puzzle easier. Whats slowing the labor? Thats the fucking theme of every birth I’ve ever been to.
Even good births have doubts.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes And whats EVERYBODY
in the birthing room thinking???
(How many people are looking at me in this vulnerable position? Oh a new person, who is that? Oh no they’re gonna poke me again!)
What subconscious psychological effect will you NOTICE?
(Pooping uses the same sphincter nerves)

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Have you ever been pooping, and the sound of an unhappy child pounding on your bathroom door made you stop pooping and it gets sucked up into that magical place and then you can’t go again for like several hours?
Birth is EXACTLY like that.

So theres a social influence as well.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes An pooping is exactly what the pushing stage of birth feels like when a person is low risk, with a low risk fetus, feeling unthreatened by social fears and awkwardness, maybe at home, or a birth center maybe in a warm bath with someone rubbing their feet and sipping tea.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes #PoopInTheTub
And I highly recommend that even for people who can’t get the cervix to work. You can do that instead of talking. Talking stops birth.

And its hard too,
cause the last thing we want as women, is to be Timothy 2:12’d while we’re creating people! 😂
But yea.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Reaching your own personal max comfort with all the resources you can muster. Build the softest nest you can. Each birth is a once in a lifetime experience. An opportunity, etc etc etc. You are an awesome and beautiful creator. #HippieBullshit
American cultural misogyny

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Tells us our bodies are lemons.
And why thats a bad thing I don’t know. Theres SO LITTLE evidence about what ancient medicine great grandma used to use for birth induction. What was it? Ground up lavender or some hippie ass shit.
But you know what, some folklore has information.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Massaging orange oil on the ankles has been said to open a stubborn #cervix. Prostaglandins released from a glass of wine also has this effect. Massaging the cervix: an intervention most would call uncomfortable, can even push it open. Midwives know all the tricks.
Liabilities.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes The reason they don’t feed us in birth is bc they don’t wanna get sued if a patient throws up while in emergency surgery. This is also why the put a needle in every poor woman’s arm during birth, even tho we’ve seen them do it in 10 seconds flat to strangers.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes And they cover their butts
while they uncover yours.
And stare at it.
With a fuckin light.

What trauma is THAT?

No wonder people think birth sucks!
We treat birthing women like fucking farm animals🤮 Its atrocious!
#Patriarchy

Midwifes taught
surgeons to wash hands.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes #momlife requires a lot of support, inner reflection, and rewiring of our brains. That needs to start earlier w psychology appts to rule out mental blocks to birth because we ALL have them. Birth isn’t the time to talk them out. Talking stops birth.

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes All sorts of weird stuff pops up when people are supposed to be birthing.

And its so uncertain anyway if ANYTHINGS going normal.

Even when everything’s going EXACTLY as it should,
they don’t tell us,
leaving us to fear.
Fear is the enemy,
the birth killer.
#fear

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes Thats a lot to unpack before the due date. Now add those onto existing REAL physical issues that can be easily fixed with some modern technology, assuming your insurance isn’t trying to almost kill you by not approving too many things to fast.
Whatever births the mom easiest. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@albertaparent @PipSyyyv @Kaelwritesblog @mollyfleck @clhubes @threadreaderapp
Please birth the unroll
#BirthLand
People who got an epidural before their first birth were scared.
Maybe it would have hurt.
But why?
The reason is custom to every woman you talk to. Sometimes physical, most times mental.
All count as excellent births.
❤️