Thread by @KapilGuptaMD

A HEARTFELT CONVERSATION ABOUT PARENTING

1) All parenting advice is ineffective

2) For we are dealing with the unpredictably of human beings

3) There is no formula for bringing up a child

4) For nature seems to bring up the child better than any parent

5) The Truth is that every parent in the world is at a loss as to how best to raise a child

6) Because, you see, as they are bringing up a child, they are simultaneously bringing up themselves

7) The advice that is given to a child is limited by the level of wisdom that the parent has achieved

8) As a result, most of what he passes along are his own misunderstandings

9) A parent is too close to a child to appropriately guide him

10) He has much too much to lose

11) Because of this, much of the guidance will be reactive and emotional

12) The parent has so much of himself in his child, that he cannot truly see the child

13) Thus, all that he does to raise him is 3 parts failure to 1 part success

14) If he becomes too strict, there are problems

15) If he becomes too lenient, there are problems

16) If he is non-negotiable, there are problems

17) If he negotiates, there are problems

18) If he acts out of tough love, there are problems

19) If he acts out of guilt, there are problems

20) If he tries to be stern, there are problems

21) If he tries to be compassionate, there are problems

22) The Truth is that no parent in the world knows "the right thing to do"

23) And they search for this for the whole of their lives

24) There is a Great Truth behind all of this

24) And that is that effective parenting can only be accomplished by way of a path that no loving parent would ever seriously entertain

25) Dispassion

Namaste.