Thread by @hanknorman

The tendrils of connection

More connections
Is better.
Getting Experience
Is you meeting other people. More people.

How much information you take from them
Is up to you. You just have to know how.

Take Information from other people?
Yes

There are two ways to extract information from people:

FIRST WAY:
You read them. You learn ‘their type’
It’s basically a stereotype
But it’s always right. People fit into categories.
Don’t believe me, see: Personality Test.
It's just how people are
They fit into categories.

This helps you navigate the world
The social landscape. It helps you meet people
Cuz you will learn how to handle them
Deal with them
Make friends with them
And allow them to help you.

Let’s start with a simple premise:
People want to help other people.

Use that.

WHY?

Why would you put in the time to meet people in this game called life?
Human connection is what life is about.
Getting to know people -
and them helping you and you helping them
That is what we are wired to do as people,
We are curious and social.

Those are the things we are.
Getting good at being social is what LIFE is about
It gets you want you want.

you need other people.

And you have to learn to be social.
In person. With people.
Yup.
That scary
Sometimes boring
MEETING NEW PEOPLE
Thing.

Getting good at doing something you don't like to do
Or have conveniently said,
I just don’t feel like doing it...
I know you don’t want to do it.
me either.

As grant cardone says:
Strangers have everything you need.
Learn to talk to them to get everything u have ever desired

I mean, you can’t get what you want in a vacuum.

The SECOND WAY to extract information from someone is
Directly.

You take knowledge from them.
What can you actually learn from them?
From their experiences?
What lessons have they learned.
What do they know, that can help you?

And how do you get it out of them?

here’s the thing
Successful people are just as stupid or stupider than you
They don't’ know how to tell you what made them famous or successful.
They have no idea
They have all these stupid, made up stories
That THEY are just DYING to tell you.

But those aren’t secrets to living. These aren’t the stories you seek.
Those are dumb things that happened to them that they just happen to remember
Make them look good or just sound like something a smart person would say:

“My dad always said to me, son, he would say, you have to earn a days wage..”

Here’s the thing
Maybe his dad’s stupid nagging phrase worked for him.
But that isn’t gonna help you or me.

I need to know HOW you got what you got

I need to know - cuz i want to do similarly and i don’t want to have to struggle like you did.
I don’t want to have to get nagged by my dad about wages and shit..

Here’s the question you ask them:
“What did you have to fight for, struggle for, to get, in your life, the most.”

Because that is all that counts.
Those are the stories you want. They have actionable takeaway.
Only things they had to work for
Cuz you want to cut your workload, get a shortcut
So you have to know how they got around it, save all that failure time

Basically, how badly they fucked up and overcame.

I want to hear your struggles.

That is what instructs me
And it entertains me too.

It has drama.
It has your pain.
I love your pain. Tell me stories of your pain.

You want to be able to extract stories of pain
From people
That’s how well you have to get to know these fuckin people
You don’t feel like meeting.

You have to get to know them.

Here’s something that will totally blow your mind
More Closer Relationships.

How many Closer Relationships do you have?

Who many people know your secrets?

What if you started to give that information
In different forms
To lots of people.

What if you did that by picking what parts of your life sucked
And that you are willing to share with the public
And you start to tell that story
Your story.

The story of your PAIN
is your Path to Power.

You will get stronger in your life
And you will become known for it.

Extract Theirs
Tell Yours

#pain2power