Gaslighting.
Its as if I am not even there.
This is a thing women experience, all the time. We speak without making a sound. We are passed over and talked around. Rudeness is not required.
We are simply erased somehow. It feels so strange.
Do you wonder why marginalized people despise civility? Wonder no longer.
It is a stick we get beaten with all the time.
Did she fuck up? Was she a bitch? It must be so.
Otherwise why is she the only one who sees it? And she CAN'T speak up, now, What would she say?
Why do that?
Where was I?
So if I could give you a tiny portion of the self-doubt I experienced talking about this... where to start?
I KNOW I will be told: but was it reeeeeeeeeeeeeeally misogyny? Could you prove that in court beyond a reasonable doubt maybe he's just a crackpot who
No matter how many times you tell us you have seen this pattern. No matter how many examples you give. No matter how clear- with the 'civil' types, the passive aggressive types- there will always be a tiny drop of implausible deniability.
Taken this magnifying glass to this one tiny cut- because the exhaustion of women is the death of a thousand cuts. All of them tiny. All of them not worth making a big deal about.
First off, thank you @badrock277 - who, the minute I alerted him to what was happening, ally'ed up. Called the dude out.
But we need so many more!
Keep your eyes out, guys, please. And of course this applies across the board,
Straight for the LGBTQIA.........SAY LGBTQIA.
(Including me).
White for PoC.
This is how the game gets played. Let's toss the board in the air and start something totally new.
I DARE YOU.