As the product of a conservative Christian upbringing that placed an unhealthy focus on the act of sex as well as sexuality as a whole, I am still trying to unlearn much of what I was taught.
Here is what I plan to teach my children:
Here is what I plan to teach my children:
To my Magic Boy,
Wanting sex is not a sin, but taking it is. The moment someone decides to force their desires on someone else, to take away another's choice, that is the moment they lose their soul.
Wanting sex is not a sin, but taking it is. The moment someone decides to force their desires on someone else, to take away another's choice, that is the moment they lose their soul.
To my Iron Girl,
Baby, hear me now and write these words on your heart as truth: YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S CHOICES.
It is not your job to keep from getting raped, it is their job not to rape.
There are no exceptions to this rule.
Baby, hear me now and write these words on your heart as truth: YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S CHOICES.
It is not your job to keep from getting raped, it is their job not to rape.
There are no exceptions to this rule.
To you both, male and female alike,
No means no. You are not given a reason for this word, you are given only its definition. An explanation for lack of consent is never owed, ever.
No means no. You are not given a reason for this word, you are given only its definition. An explanation for lack of consent is never owed, ever.
And also, know this: You are more than just body. You are mind and soul, value and worth. The message you may hear from society is that you can grab 'em by the pussy or that you are just a pussy to be grabbed, but this is a lie.
Know the truth.
Stand for the truth.
Fight for the truth.
And I promise, my precious babies, that I will stand and fight, both for you and alongside you.
Always.
Stand for the truth.
Fight for the truth.
And I promise, my precious babies, that I will stand and fight, both for you and alongside you.
Always.
