Thread by @ArmaniTalks

'Don't care if people like me? That doesn't sound right.'

Counterintuitive, I know.

But trust me, adopting this mindset will make your life 10x easier.

'But how do I get that mindset in the first place?'

Let me explain.

There are 2 forms of confidence
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1. External

This form of confidence is when the external world influences your value.

'Whatchu mean?'

You know that Ferrari, mansion, blinged out jewelry etc.

'Oh yea that would make me feel confident!'

But this confidence comes with a catch.

'And what is that?'

This confidence is very volatile.

'How is it volatile?'

A few ways.

Basing your worth off of items comes with pros & cons.

One pro is that it's quick.

If you're making money you can buy items & immediately feel good about yourself.

'So how is that bad?'

The bad part is that as you mature, you do not place as much value on items alone.

'Really??'

Ya. You go from valuing items to people.

Once the transition happens, all the items that once made you feel good, doesn't have the same effect.

'Dang, that's not good.'

Exactly.

Another risky thing about external confidence is that it's fickle.

I mean you are buying a lot of things not only to feel good about yourself, but lowkey you want others to check out your status.

This causes you to commit a social dynamics sin.

'Which is?'

Basing your value on the opinions of others.

'Damn. Ya you always mention I cannot control other people's opinions.'

Exactly.

Adopting the external confidence approach may have you feeling good initially.

But after some time you'll be back to your insecure self.

2. Internal

'Damn so what do i do??'

You adopt the second path.

Internal confidence.

'What makes this one better?'

This one allows you to have full control.

All your powers come from within.

This is self-confidence.

This route takes longer, but 100% worth it.

With this route you care about your own opinion the most.

Which ties back to my initial tweet.

You don't care if people like you.

You don't try to impress anyone but yourself.

This makes people like you more.

You embody a sense of self assuredness that puts others at ease.

'So how do I get internal confidence?'

Few ways:

-Overcome a few insecurities.

-Become good at a few things.

-Complimenting yourself more.

-Helping others become better versions of themselves.

But there's one that is very important.

'Well go on!! I'm taking notes.'

Values.

'Values? What the fuck is that going to do?'

It keeps you grounded.

It gives you something to stand for.

And most importantly?

It connects you with your internal world.

By creating values for your life, you slowly transition into becoming your best friend.

'Really?'

Ya.

But there's a catch.

'And what is that bucko?'

You need to be firm with your values.

Anytime you break your values you lose a grip with the internal world.

Results?

The conflicts of the external world will begin to rattle you more.

'What if I stick to em?'

If you stick to em, your power grows.

Now you are well grounded.

The conflicts of the external world does not phase you as much.

You now become your own leader in life.

That's true internal confidence.

You feel bold because now you are your harshest critic & biggest fan.

And just like that, you have a changed reality.

'Have you tried both strategies?'

I have.

Growing up I went the external confidence route.

Did wonders in the beginning, but eventually fizzled out.

For the past few years I have been doing the internal confidence route.

'And how have you been feeling?'

Better than ever.

It's definitely a process.

Everyday you get to know yourself on a deeper level.

And the more that you learn about yourself, the more you want to know!

Life becomes so much easier because now you feel in control.

Now choose your path.

Valuing yourself is a major key to getting ahead in life.

Stop treating yourself like a clearance item & begin treating yourself like a luxury product!

Love yourself & you will begin to attract quality people.

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