and she's like well, what is the voice telling you re: the particular sitch we were talking abt
and im like you know the usual, dont get used to feeling good, everything can come crashing down at any minute, are you sure you can do this etc
then she asks why do you think that voice says what it says to you?
and i think abt it and say well i guess its... trying to protect me?
and thats bc i was regarding it as hostile and mean ill-intentioned (which i think it once was)
with that reframing, i turned the voice into someone that i love, a good friend who is trying to save me from unseen dangers
and i said 'hey, i appreciate what you're trying to do. i love you for trying to keep me safe, but i dont need your protection anymore. i can handle this now.'
in a 'normal' brain, the alarm goes off all the time
in ppl like me w/ anxiety disorders the alarm is on aaaaallll the time, threat or not
but like... it was just trying to help. that realization changed everything for me. i envisioned it as a little kid
you get mad abt the mess she caused, but you also scoop her up and tell her that you appreciate her trying
that puts sooo much pressure on us to not feel the things we're feeling and to do the things we need to do
so, dont silence it. be nice to it. thank it for its service. NEVER FORGET THAT IT LIES, but appreciate the reason that it does
also in speaking to the voice, the pressure isnt on me to be perfect or never feel anxious again. its the voice that needs to cool out
'i know youre just trying to protect me and i appreciate it. but i have the tools to handle this now; i dont need you anymore. i got this. but thank you so much.'
might sound silly but 🤷🏾♀️
k thanks for listening to me babble!