Thread by @An_nikah_

DIVORCE STORIES. THREAD.
This thread is to bring you stories of why different marriages break. We hope that brothers and sisters learn from this and become more careful and value their spouse(S) as much as possible.

PS.. We could not further summarize this thread

1. Absence of Respect
A dignified woman about 35 years old said about her divorce request “I've been married for about 12yrs. My husband is a good man and there are many characteristics of a good and amiable person in him. Whenever there's a get together, he make everyone laugh..

Only that he performs his show by teasing and humiliating me. He has failed to realize that I am his wife and the mother of his 2 kids. You cannot believe how much I have been hurt. My nerves have been affected so much that I have to go to a psychiatrist for treatment...

I have talked to him about it many times. I have begged him not to treat me that way and reminded him of my age and position as 'his wife' and that it is not proper for him to joke with me in front of others so that they have a laugh or a good time.

I feel embarrassed in front of everybody and because I have not ever been a witty person, I cannot compete with him. Since my demands are not being met by him, I prefer that we separate. I know I'll not be happy on my own, but I cannot live with a man who constantly degrades me."

2. Picking up Quarrels
Some men are constantly seeking excuses to pick up fault with everything. They moan at every trivial matter: "Why is this table dirty? Why is the lunch not ready? Why is that vase here? Have I not said before that ashtrays should not be on the floor?"

"A man called the police station and claimed that his wife had left his house two months ago and that she was living with her parents. After further enquiries, this man's wife said:....

..... 'My husband does not like my style of housekeeping. He constantly criticizes me on my cooking and running the affairs of house. Therefore, I have left him to find peace somewhere else'."

3. Set the boundary between your mother, siblings and your spouse .

a. A young couple took their divorce application to a court in Tabriz. The man said in the court: 'My wife writes love-letters to my brother who lives in Isfahan. I found a few of her letters last night'.

His wife while crying, said: 'My mother and sister-in-law do not like me and constantly disturb me. But now that their mischievous deeds have not affected my husband, they have forged some love-letters and have placed them in my wardrobe in order to instigate him to divorce me.

3b. "Mr. M. Javad writes: 'My mother-in-law is a demon, a dragon, a two-headed serpent. May God save the wolves from her. She has made my life so bitter that I am going crazy and feel like running away to the mountains and deserts...

... It is not only me who is fed up with this situation. This is a general case and I think ninety-five percent of men are affected by them and the other five percent probably do not have a mother-in-law'.

3c. Mr. K Parviz writes: 'My mother-in-law has treated me in such a way that I almost divorced my wife 3×. She stings like a scorpion. She teaches my wife to be rude to me, to leave the housework, or to expect the impossible from me. Whenever she visits, our house turns into hell

4. Do not make your spouse suspicious.

"A 27-year old woman said in the court: 'It was the winter of 1963, when on a snowy day, I got in a car which belonged to my friend's uncle. She offered that her uncle would give me a lift home. I accepted and got in his car....

... When we reached home, my husband was standing by the door of the house and since I did not want him to see me in another man's car, I asked my friend's uncle to drive on, which he did. Later, my husband who had seen me in that car, asked about it, but I denied everything...

.. He became more suspicious and it reached a stage where he did not even believe my friend's witness. Now it is eight years that he has neither lived with me nor divorced me.

And Allah says "..And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect." (30:21)
Reflect on His signs and be just to ur spouse