I perversely rather enjoy watching them figure out that not only will I not clean up after them or nag them, but I am far more oblivious to mess than they are.
I have... feelings.
Shame each other for shitty behavior. Make it a point of pride and braggadicio when you carry 65% of the load. Make it a competition to see which of you can free up the baddest woman the most.
Stop having straight relationships.
It doesn't matter how "nice" the boy is. The institution was created for the sole purpose of ensuring your domestic servitude and the propagation of patriarchal wealth.
And I don't mean just fuck women. ...Although seriously, have you tried fucking women? Like seriously, don't just give up and wimp out after the first one or ten. Everything worth doing takes practice.
Is there any reason other than habit for these to be the same person?
If others rely on you, you need to be extremely cautious about breaking changes.
The cool thing about queer relationships is that you always start more or less from scratch, as equals. You have to negotiate your roles, as equals. You have to introspect.
This is why queers have better sex, too. (Obviously.). Most straight people are scared shitless to actually say what they want. Queers don't have a choice. There's no script.
Same for poly. When you don't make one human be your ALL N'FOREVER, you are free together.
If you *must* fuck men, relegate them to play partners with low expectations unless they prove themselves worthy.
If you want to marry them despite all evidence to the contrary, at least get it in writing. You get all the assets if they don't do half the work? Seems fair.
I am the partner who doesn't help around the house, who has low standards, etc. As described in the article to a T.
We negotiated everything and we are both very happy with it, but the day they stop being happy, it changes.
If I were a dude I don't think it morally acceptable. But I'm not. So I pay them a salary and sit with my mild discomfort.