Among them, one was the social disease we happily fed, celebrated and glorified right up until it put a dangerous ignoramus in the White House.
Narcissism. Clinical narcissism. The disorder kind.
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I also find it fascinating though as both a psychological issue and cultural problem.
The individual psychology part is pretty wild. It really is.
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They’re like computers running on a corrupted, early version of DOS while the rest of us are running on iOS.
Their calculations are programmed, simplistic and broken; and their software cannot be updated.
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We understand what the world thinks of us through a social mirror called the ‘reflected self’.
We can see and process how other people see us.
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We’re a herd species.
We’re programmed to value our continued place in the herd.
And that means caring when the herd isn’t psyched to see us at the watering hole.
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It doesn’t help us or the herd if when the rest of the water buffalo are chilly to us in the cafeteria, we’re unable to think about why that is and what we did to deserve it.
Humans have a system for that.
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The first is making decisions based on today’s version of our software.
The third is revising the software to adapt our behavior.
The second is processing what to change.
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1) Operate within the herd
2) Process and evaluate feedback
3) Adapt when out of synch
The three make for a whole, integrated person. Stable behavior; capable of learning; adaptive when needed.
The 2nd is the most sophisticated - and the most ‘human’.
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At some point in their life, narcissists’ survival required shortcutting the 3-step process the rest of us rely on to maintain healthy lives.
Narcissists bypassed that system early because they had to.
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but if there’s a lion, you better get your buffalo ass in gear and run.
There’s no time for thinking about whether the herd likes runners.
The problem is the lion.
The only rule then is: survive.
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Having a consistent self didn’t matter; adapting instantly mattered a lot.
So, the person’s wiring bypassed the middle module altogether.
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They have:
1) no stable sense of who they are
2) no ability to weigh what’s good or bad about that
3) a compulsion to react
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Their system override mode was the only way try to avoid the abuse.
It worked well enough to become their go-to.
It didn’t work well enough to keep from feeling worthless inside.
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They don’t even have the module everyone in a herd needs for both their own sake and for the herd’s.
They aren’t wired for herd life.
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Narcs’ are programmed to bypass those kinds of things and only process what helps them NOW.
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It makes the narc dysfunctional, volatile, toxic and potentially dangerous but mainly only to themselves and the members of the herd closest to them.
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And what plays a critical role in acquiring power?
Privilege.
And what bestows the greatest privilege on someone in the U.S.?
- White
- Male
- Educated
- Financially well-off
- Healthy and able-bodied
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We elevate the Mark Zuckerbergs for being cutthroat on the way up and abusive to the herd since.
We idealize ‘winners’ enriched at herd expense.
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Elevating figures with narcissistic qualities to roles of authority in government and business - and giving them platforms in the media.
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It is not unhealthy to look at the ‘reflected self’ - how you are being seen by others - and opt to not revise your code.
That’s where that 2nd module comes in.
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The programming isn’t etched in stone. It also isn’t written in the sand.
Onlookers see both consistency and adaptation.
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The second module isn’t working there...
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Without it, we aren’t a herd with any benefits of community.
We aren’t even individuals ruggedly competing.
We’re a herd with maladapted predators among us enabled by lesser versions in business, gov and media.
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I have no idea if he is or isn’t a narcissist.
I know that piece is highly narcissistic though.
There’s a lot of that going around.
And it is a huge problem.
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