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1/ I’ve concluded that when we have kids, a full-time nanny will be an absolute requirement. It will be worth sacrificing in every other area if necessary to have one
2/ Biggest reason is so Lauren and I can continue full-time, but flexible careers. Not only is this important for us personally, but from talking to and observing other families I think it helps maintain boundaries and diverse social lives
3/ Nannies are a big part of Latino and Filipino culture. Babas are a third parent figure that provides a different perspective on parenting, an additional source of caring and wisdom, and often a lifelong bond with kids
4/ For 3 culture families who default to English, it also helps kids learn a second language and provides a connection back to the homeland. My father still visits his baba in the Philippines, who is over 90 years old
5/ I think for the nanny, it can also become a second family and a source of security. There’s a lot of upward mobility possible for immigrant women in such a role
6/ Having a nanny is definitely a privilege, but I think it depends on one’s values. I’d much rather have a small house, used cars, simple clothes and possessions, and the support and autonomy that comes with full-time childcare
7/ Anyone have any good resources on how to find a nanny? Or how to think about and structure such a relationship?
