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Successful people love talking about their struggles.

But everyone simply asks them about their wins.

If you want to stick out, ask them about their failures before their wins.

You'll connect to them on a deeper level.
'Can you explain why this is?'

Yes.

It's because you go for the heart before the mind.

'Huh??'

Read along. This is a rapport shortcut 👇
Social interactions are energetic experiences.

But there are stages involved.

☆Stranger
☆Acquaintance
☆Friend
During the stranger level, it is a very formal convo.

A formal convo is led with your logical side.

Picture how you talk to someone while waiting in the line at a grocery store.
Logical convo = predictable

You can often predict what the person is going to ask.

It's very safe conversation.
'How is me asking a successful person about their wins logical?'

It's because they hear it all the time.

Everyone comes to them asking for a blueprint to success.

They've heard all the qs
But understand this.

Every human has emotions.

Successful people had to make a lot of sacrifices to become successful.

Success has a cost, no way around that.
This successful person has either sacrificed:

☆Time
☆Friends
☆Parties

Etc.
And deep inside, every human wants to talk about these sacrifices.

But when you look at them, you can tell they have a lot of pride.

Therefore, their pride prevents them from airing out their feelings.
Which is where you come in.

'What do I do?'

You ask them about these sacrifices.

You ask them about these losses.

You ask them about their struggles.
'Gee whiz! But won't that upset them?'

For a quick second, sure.

But allow them to speak.

You'll notice something.
'What?'

Their eyes will glisten.

Because their past Losses reminds them of how far they have come.

They are reliving their hero's tale!
They'll till you about their wins on their own.

But you've done something.

You've disrupted the social paradigm!
While most people are asking them about the mountain top.

You are asking them about their climb.

This makes you radiate like fire in their eyes.
Their subconscious mind will tie all the positive feelings with you.

They'll remember you for the future.

That's how you play social chess while everyone else plays tic tac toe.
Final point:

There are nuances to this.

Don't ask someone who is struggling to highlight their losses.

That'll just frustrate them more.

Do this move with people who are successful
Give this move a try.

Hack into rapport.

And stack your social assets.

For more tips on likeability & charisma, follow your boy @ArmaniTalks
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