Me trying to start a conversation about all-male panels:
Me: Why are there no women on the panel?
Men: We can't find women who can speak about this issue.
Me: Have you asked them?
Men: No
Men: OMG I just noticed.
Men: We have invited one woman but she couldn't make it.
Me: There are other women you can invite. All you need to do is ask around. Have you asked around?
Men: .......................
Men: Women have to step forward. They can't expect too much from us.
Me: How do women step forward? They are not the ones organizing the forums are they?
Men: ......................
Men: Would you like to speak?
Me: Hell no. I refuse to be an afterthought.
Men: There are not many women who can speak about this issue.
Me: I have a list of names of women who can speak about this issue. I can give it to you.
Men: ........................
Men: This is not a women's issue.
Me: So religion, race, class, elections, democracy, social justice are not women's issues?
Men: ...........................
Men (and women who internalise patriarchal values): But the moderator is a woman.
Me: It's still an all-male panel.
Men: *mansplain endlessly*
Me: Sorry. I've stopped going to all male-panels for years.
Men: Oh. Ok.
Exclusion. This is what you are perpetuating.