Thread by @ArmaniTalks

If you disagree then say:

'I respectfully disagree'... then include your point.

Calling someone idiotic or saying they are wrong is socially unintelligent.

You just sparking an ego fam.

And to add insult to injury, your message isn't even heard.

Learn to disagree without making an enemy in the process.

Today, I want to give you a 'Disagreement Etiquette' lesson.

You may accidentally making social mistakes.

Let's fix that... 👇

Socially Intelligent people know 2 things about disagreements:

1. Time & Place.
2. Decorum.

1. Time & Place

You don't often see socially intelligent people disagreeing left & right.

Why?

Because there is a time & place.

Their ego is well tamed.

And they know EVERY opinion doesn't have to be expressed.

Smart people often sit back & try to understand other perspectives.

Stupid people try to shove their opinion down someone else's throat.

Evaluate whether a disagreement is even needed for this social context.

If not, fall back & see where the other is coming from.

2. Decorum

When socially intelligent people do disagree, they do so with decorum.

They don't insult, virtue signal or open with a criticism.

'So what do they do?'

Good question.

They:

1. Summarize the other persons points. This allows the other person to feel heard.

2. They insert what they do agree with (if there were any).

3. They respectfully disagree, and contribute points.

4. They hear each others side & transition to a new topic when its time.

That's how you disagree without making an enemy in the process.

But like I said, only disagree when the time is needed.

Disagreements & debates require your brain to use creative fuel.

All creative fuel that you could be using to invest in yourself.

Don't be known as a debater in your squad.

That shit is fine for politics, but not for social interactions.

It gets annoying overtime & people will feel like it's a chore to speak with you.

But it is needed every now & then, I get it.

Just understand that disagreements are more so about the idea, not the person.

So if someone disagree with you, don't personalize it.

If you disagree with someone, don't go at their character.

'Gotcha man! Anything else?'

Last point is to watch your tone.

Most people have this aggressive ass tone when they disagree.

This causes others to shut down.

Rather, smile a little when you are talking so your tonality remains light.

Be very conscious of this.

That's it.

Disagree rarely & when you do so, do it with tact.

It will show whether you control your ego or the other way around.

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