Tell me how you “live as a woman” without insulting all women.
Explain “feeling like a woman” w/o falling back on cartoonish stereotypes & sexual fantasies.
We’re legally canonizing a concept no one can respectfully define.
(“Incongruence” means “out of place.”)
Notice the conflation of sex and gender, with the lack of a definition for either.
It’s worrying, however, that the document affirms the idea that “gender variant” behavior exists without seeing fit to define what that behavior is.
Do you think Marie Curie ever wished she’d been born male?
Is it so difficult to imagine that she might, after a while, wish she were a boy?
And if social judgment & exclusion is driving that desire, is transition an ethical intervention?
A girl is born carrying none of these things. Rather, we press them into her hands upon her birth.
Girls grow up knowing this. They learn to respect men and criticize women, who are always, always being evaluated.
The men are weary of demands for invulnerability. The women want to be looked in the eye and spoken to like an adult.
But is that the fault of their body? Their biology?
And is it really pathological to want more than what the world, as is, offers those of your sex?
I used to believe that transgenderism was an act of rebellion, and I approved.
But, really, correcting “gender incongruence” is about as conformist as it gets.
First there is you, and YOU are complete and worthy.
Your sex is a thing about you, and it is also complete and worthy.
Male or female, I hope you’ve found the box you were birthed into uncomfortable & unfair, because that discomfort is what changes the world for all of us.
It does. Whether or not they name it as sexism, it bothers all of us.
But we can only adapt so much. We all fall short — all of us.
And some of us don’t survive at all.
In some situations, it provides comfort - to that one person.
But upending sexism frees ALL of us, including those not “incongruent” enough to want to transition, or those without the option.
Let’s address that discomfort by breaking the rules, tearing down the walls, and celebrating the girls who love trucks & bugs.
(Brought to you by a girl who loved dolls, animals, bugs, & baseball.)
(With special thanks to my sons who love camping, dogs, video games, cooking, art, music, & sports.)