I was raised by all women.
My father had gotten my mother pregnant when she was just 15. His father
insisted on an abortion or he'd 'write my pops out of the will'. My pops bailed.
My mother raised me--and 4 siblings--mostly alone.
As I grew up, I remembered the power and influence and wisdom of WOMEN in my life. My Great Grandmother was the key:
She taught my mother about the loving example of #JesusChrist. She demonstrated it without any hypocritical BS.
...the family was smashed. I was too young to really understand.
This was my mother's "true mother". Her real mother was a mental case. That 'love' was selfish & broken. GG had pulled mamma in & trained her up to be a woman.
My mother, and my aunts, & my Grandfather's 2nd wife... They took up the slack. We learned to manage. And the #Women were our leaders.
My father traded me for a chance at his father's fortune and approval. His father imagined me as 'greedy for his possessions', when I was yet forming in the womb.
My Step Father was manic depressive & schizophrenic. Not his fault.
I learned how to 'love men' & 'be masculine' on my own.
I learned with the examples of the Women who raised and kept me.
They were long-suffering & kind, they were patient but stubborn too! They'd have to "put men in their place" & protect us all.
If we were dead broke, and me and my aunt were trying to fix the car, and she was at the counter trying to get the new part...
The men would patronize and mock her. Sometimes they'd even try to cheat on the price!
I was subject to many private conversation among 'only' women. I attended baby showers & wedding showers & I learned to be a bit more feminine in my compassion and behaviors.
Men were loved, tolerated and not fully trusted.
This forced the women to passively demonstrate that they could obtain more power by stealth if need be.
The women who helped my mother--who were the living examples of my Great Grandmother--whom had raised me & corrected me... They were...
There. I said it.
We're seeing the seeds of change I hope.
Maybe not in Radical Feminism... And certainly not in Rigid Conservatism.
But somewhere in between.
There's a chance for a new understanding of one another.
We can let them know we see all the #BULLSHIT,
...& that we appreciate them.
& we owe mostly everything to the kindness of women.
Their suffering brought us this far, & they were mostly quiet about it.