Men aren’t the enemy.
Liberals aren’t the enemy.
GENDER is the enemy, and all of us can do something about that.
“Man” and “woman” must become ideas large enough to contain entire human beings.
Gender is the enemy.
To me, gender = social expectations, rules, and norms assigned to a person on the basis of their sex.
The dress isn’t gender. The idea that dresses and vaginas are intrinsically related? THAT is gender.
Society CREATED the association between dresses and women.
Gender is CONSTRUCTED.
We can’t know because it’s impossible to create a real control group.
The best way I know how to explain this is by talking about airplanes, meteorology, and 9/11.
This created an opportunity that weather researchers never get —
They got to take measurements of climate conditions in the absence of aircraft vapor trails.
People, we have a sky FULL of gender.
All this happens before a kid can even speak or move about on their own.
Gender is their first food.
How much of that boy’s boisterous energy comes from his higher levels of testosterone, and how much is from his parents subconsciously encouraging him to take more risks than his sisters when he plays?
There’s too much variation within the population to apply observed trends to specific people.
Is a man doing it? Then it’s manly.
Is a woman doing it? Then it’s womanly.
Men and women are WHOLE PEOPLE, and we contain ALL the things we are, regardless of whether our culture has learned to expect or allow them.
So, men in dresses? Sure, if you want to. Women fixing cars? Why not?
And we do actually have SUBSTANTIAL biological differences. It’s not just reproductive organs (although creating life is no minor detail!).
There is a distinct biological difference between men and women.
I remember the first time I was on my own and had to assemble furniture. You’d have thought that a screwdriver required a penis to operate, how intimidates I was by the job.
I learned to sharpen the blade on my lawnmower, and, when I drop my car off to be repaired, I generally can tell the mechanic exactly what’s malfunctioning.
And I’m a woman.
I’ve run long races, lectured at professional conferences, planted gardens, braided hair, built furniture, and sold sex.
It made it hard to lead at work because, when women state things plainly, people think we’re bitches.
It made it hard to go to school, because girls are supposed to be thin and stylish, and I wasn’t, and I paid for it.
It made me afraid to leave bad relationships because I thought I needed men for things I didn’t actually need them for.
It made me hand my power over to others.
Women must act as mediators, almost midwives, for the emotions those men have been taught to fear.
There is no useful purpose for people growing up afraid and ashamed of themselves.
Gender - our sex-based expectations for ourselves and each other - it hurts people.