What is one thing we should change about Indian society to address the growing rape culture and male chauvinistic tendencies? #thread
I recently read this answer on Quora - quora.com/If-you-could-c…. I could easily relate to everything mentioned in it. Every time I come home, the kind of treatment I get as a boy is very different from the way a girl in a similar scenario would have been treated
I wake up in the morning and my mom brings me a cup of coffee. My grandma hands me a bowl of fruits and sweets and says how I have grown thin and how I should eat more. My sister had come home late the previous night after working long hours but she doesn't get similar treatment.
I walk to the kitchen to wash the cup and bowl only to be told that I don't have to do that. "Oh don't worry about it. You relax. You just woke up and you must be very tired".
After some time, I am bored and walk to the kitchen again to ask if my grandma needs help with cooking or cutting vegetables. She literally says - "No no no. This is not for men to do. Rather, ask your sister to help me in the kitchen. You just go relax."
It's lunch time and only my dad and I (after 4 hours of doing nothing) are served food because "men should eat first".
My mom asks my sister to join the table and my grandma says "she can wait, let the men finish eating first". My grandma then goes on to talk about how difficult it must be for me to cook on my own when I'm in the US and how my fiancee doesn't cook for me all the time.
See the pattern? We give way too much importance to the men in our families. It is high time moms and grandmas of India stopped giving this special treatment. No, we men don't deserve it. Not a little bit. Not anymore.
This entitlement only grows to a mindset that it is okay to molest girls, take women for granted, and feel superior despite doing nothing. I know it is not easy for our parents or grandparents to understand this and change themselves. But that's no excuse us to change.
As a man, I pledge to keep my surroundings safe from sexual predators. I pledge to talk to my friends and family (and maybe in the future, my children) about the importance of consent, equality and mutual respect. I pledge to treat men and women equally.
Let's stop breeding asshole men!
Oh, and to the lawmakers and the supreme court. Please goddamn punish the Rapists! Criminalize rapes and destroy these predators. They don't deserve human rights.
