Q. It’s so hard to decide whether to stay and try to surmount a bad manager situation, or just get another job.
A. Do both. As you begin your stealth job search preparations you will start to feel more confident. You have talents and capabilities and there’s no need to squander them working for a manager who mistreats you.
Your stealth job search will begin to provide acknowledgment from the outside world that you should get at work, but don’t. What tends to happen is that as your flame grows, your manager starts treating you better, sensing that they could lose you if they keep stomping on you...
...such that by the time you accept an offer to go somewhere else, you may be slightly ambivalent about it because your manager has stopped being such a jerk. You influenced your manager to chill out and that’s great, but take the job. Life is all about new experiences
