Thread by @RealNaijaGuy

For the past two weeks, I have had over half a dozen people call me to tell me they are in a bad place emotionally.

Each time I'm like: "sorry, how did you get my number?"

I get:

Someone on twitter gave it to me.

You may not know me but I know you.

But the case of today was a quite different.

This young man called and told me he was emotionally down, financially in a bad place.

And he needed to come out of it.

I asked if he had spoken to someone before, he told me he has.

He mentioned the name of one of the biggest

entrepreneurs we have in this space.

But nothing anyone had told him has worked.

Then I took him through a process that has already began to rewire his mind and I just want to share it with you.

I believe it will help you as you try to adjust your sails for a successful

adventure in 2020.

Here is a hard truth:

No strategy will ever work for you if your mind is not set right.

Every man is a product of his mindset and until you get it fixed, "seven steps to success," "3 steps to breakthrough" will not work for you.

A man finished typing a document on a computer & when he printed it out, he observed an error in the spelling of his name.

He picked up an eraser, rubbed off the error & used a pen to correct it.

Went back to the computer & printed another copy

Behold, the error is still there

He was surprised.

But I corrected this🤔

He took the eraser & the pen, repeated the process & corrected the name.

He went back to the computer and print out ten copies.

Voila, the ten copies carried the same error.

He was getting frustrated and anger is welling up within him

He picked up the eraser and pen and repeated the same correction on all ten copies.

He hoped that this time, everything was okay.

He went back to the computer, and this time printed out 100 copies.

To his bewilderment, each of the 100 copies had the same error.

He got angry, gave up and left the document.

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I know you'll say the man is insane, or crazy or just a plain idiot.

But take it slow.

What that man did is exactly what many of us do.

We are always solving the symptoms instead of tackling the problems.

We are attacking

the fruit instead of the root.

If you want to change your life, the place to begin is to change your mind.

Your mind is what carries the program that determines how you think, what you feel, how you act and the result you get.

What you need is not another strategy on how to

become successful.
What you need is a thorough re-programming of your mind.

To keep this short, I'll share with you some things I shared with him:

1. Your mind does not know the difference between fiction and reality

Everything that goes into your mind, it concludes to be real

Have you ever seen a movie where your favourite actor died and you found yourself crying so helplessly?

Why did you cry?

Did you not know it was just am act?

Of course you did, but your mind did not.

Your mind immediately interpreted it as reality and sent impulses to your

body that made you feel sad and cry.

The point? You can actually teach your mind to begin to think the way you want it to.

This is the greatest skill or power any man can possess.

2. Understand Neuro-genesis.

Even as you grow old, your brain doesn't grow old.
Your brain is

always creating nee neurone that form new experiences and habits.

As a new neural connection is being formed, the opposite of it is getting weaker.

For instance, if you are always fearful, it is because you have strong neural connection that ignite the feeling everytime

As you begin to practice boldness, bravery and faith, new neural connections begin to form and as they grow stronger, the old one grows weaker.

It's just like the first time you drove a car vs now after several years of driving.

3. Neural plasticity is real.

Just as the universe continues to expand, the human mind has the capacity to expand infinitely.

That means, your mind is expecting and waiting for you to create new experiences for 'her.'

Your mind wants to expand, film her with experiences.

There is more I told him, but let me share practical solutions I gave him:

First, I asked him some questions. Deep searching questions. And I found out some things. And this things I have noticed in all who call me:

1. You don't know what you want.

As harsh as tho sounds,

many of us don't know what we want.

If I asked you, you'll tell me you want to be rich, you want money etc.

Bit really, deep down, many of us don't.

I only need to put some questions across to you and you'll see it as clear as water.

2. Some of you know what you want but you don't believe you deserve it.

Again you'll want to argue, but here:

The only way to confirm that you BELIEVE you deserve something is by your demand.

If you believe you deserve something, you will demand for it

You won't even flinch or squint at the though of asking.

Many of us have been taught to 'want' what our parents want; what our friends, teachers, the media etc want.

And we we don't even know what we want.

The few of us who know what we want, because we have been programmed

to want what others want, we don't believe we deserve what we want.

If you can decide what you want, and convince yourself that you deserve it, you will not need anyone to give you any 3 steps to success.

You will, by your self, take mad steps.

You will personally choose

your friends.

Guys, you don't need to beat about the bush.

Just

1. Decide what you want. (I have once written here that to decide means to eliminate every other options)

2. Sufficiently convince yourself that you deserve it

3. Demand for it and commit yourself to getting it

I hope this brought you light?

Let's finish 2020 strong.

(At this rate, I should be looking into behaviour a therapy 🤔)

How did I say let's finish 2020 strong?😂

I'm living in the future already. Lol.

It's 2019 we are finishing strong.