So I've developed a thing about "selfish"
People who are emotionally healthy don't look for blame. They don't explode on you. They don't hold things against you for years to be used as weapons in a fight.
"They are my friend / family = I must act a certain way" because to us, theres a clear set of rules around how friends and family are supposed to act to each other.
Until I:
A) learned about and unpacked a lot of my codependency issues and my need to always have others see me as "good" and be taking care of others
B) Stopped surrounding myself with toxic people
A sign that I probably haven't been putting myself first.
A sign that I need more distance or boundaries.
Cause you know what? It hurts when people call me selfish. Because I care. so. much.
The person who least often receives that level of care from me, used to be me.
These days I make a rule of giving myself at least as much care as I would those other groups.
Anyway: before you feel bad about yourself make sure you're not surrounded by assholes 🤷♀️🧡🧡🧡🧡
*shrug*
Well, maybe I am.
Maybe I am selfish.
Maybe I am presumptive.
Maybe I am rude.
I mean, it is their truth. Why should I try to fight their version of me if they want to see the worst in me? Y
I know who I am now. And I know what kind of people I want around me. People who understand that everyone is selfish sometimes. That people make mistakes. That people are imperfect.
Fin.