You couples/marriages that I am encountering are presenting more often esigodlweni. And the biggest manifestation of the problems are regarding intimacy /having children / impotency or low sex drive.
Today I will speak on the spirituality behind this.
A thread.
Today I will speak on the spirituality behind this.
A thread.
The message we constantly preach at Umsamo is to know thyself nemimoya that you are carrying. Isiguni or is isindawe. In the event you and your partner are the same - you will clash and this needs to be simply cleansed and you will be fine.
If opposing, you are fine.
If opposing, you are fine.
When couples clash this can manifest in the form of struggling to be intimate.
So what are the other causes of low sex drive and impotency ? In my experience it is secrets. Secrets of experiences and decisions made which have a long lasting effect on you spiritually but we choose not to deal with and cleanse.
See part of cleansing is dealing with the psychology of the occurrence in addition to the spirituality.
It forces you and your partner to have uncomfortable but necessary conversation which has been swept under the carpet.
It forces you and your partner to have uncomfortable but necessary conversation which has been swept under the carpet.
The kind of secrets I am referring to are (for both man and women):
1. A lost child
2. Infidelity
3. A secret child
4. A calling left unanswered
5. Uncertainty regarding paternity
6. Ukuthwala
Just to name a few.
1. A lost child
2. Infidelity
3. A secret child
4. A calling left unanswered
5. Uncertainty regarding paternity
6. Ukuthwala
Just to name a few.
You see healing doesn’t work unless it holistic. By the time a couple comes to me they have been to couples counseling, genetic counseling everything but they still struggle but it is because they forget ukuthi amathongo are the ones they united them.
You see the reality is you cannot hide esigodlweni. You do not have to say a secret for me to see it. And that’s why sometimes medical intervention is limited. That’s why sometimes they can’t see or find anything because amathongo have it made so.
Now, I am not saying medicine is important- it is. In fact amathongo can even direct you to the right couples counselor and doctor and clinic.
IVF, surrogacy and other interventions can work perfectly fine when blessed by amathongo.
IVF, surrogacy and other interventions can work perfectly fine when blessed by amathongo.
In conclusion, if you are your partner are having intimacy issues or conception issues - go to the doctor and get the necessary medical health. AND PSYCHOLOGICAL HELP. Psychologists and therapist are healers too.
But come back home and have a spiritual conversation.
But come back home and have a spiritual conversation.
