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Hi, I'd like to talk about flirting. We've had a lot of men in the past few weeks going "oh but does X mean that I'm not allowed to flirt
with anyone anymore?". Beyond the obvious disingenuity there, I think the core of the issue is that clearly, not all but a lot of men see
flirting as very much convincing a previously uninterested woman that she is in fact interested in them. I've chatted about this with a lot
of female friends, most of whom flirt with men frequently, and the consensus seemed to be that for us at least, flirting means trying to see
if someone is interested in them, and generally being charming around them in the hope that they are. That's why none of these women are
currently not going through any kind of existential crisis over their behaviour. If you think that flirting inherently is about convincing
someone that no, actually, they do want to kiss you/sleep with you/date you whatever, then yeah, I can definitely see why you're now very
confused about where the line is, because your mindset isn't that women have agency, and can maybe decide if they want you by themselves.
Oh blast, just noticed the double negative in the middle of that thread. Anyway.
