Thread by @Spacekatgal

1/ I shouldn’t comment on @DouthatNYT’s terrible piece arguing that Incel men have a right to sex workers and sex robots. It’s embarrassingly bad.

But it’s also missing the point. And as someone that has met many #gamergate members at my college talks, I want to tell you why.

2/ The majority of Gamergate/Incel men I’ve met share these personality traits.
✅ Undersocialized
✅ Awkward around women
✅ Incapable of understanding how their words/actions make women uncomfortable
✅ Blame others for the social isolation that is a consequence of this

3/ Really great example. One Alt-righter disrupted one of my college talks by asking a “question” that was a long, sexist monologue.

After my talk, he followed me to my car, continuing to try to “debate” me.

I was worried I’d be murdered. He had no idea I was uncomfortable.

4/ I don’t think these young men are fundamentally bad people.

We force boys to suppress all emotion, communicate that women are sex objects and not people, and teach them dominance and anger are the best emotional outlet.

They suffer from this system. They are MISERABLE.

5/ Even though I have empathy for them, we can’t put sex workers in danger by making Incels their problem. They will bear the brunt of abuse, violence and even be murdered.

Instead, we need to destigmatize therapy. These men need to figure out why people avoid them and grow.

6/ I believe social skills should be part of an elementary school education. Child psychologists agree.

Kids need to know how to deal with the loss of a friend, how to process grief and anger, and how to be a good friend to others.

I would vote for that as your congresswoman.

7/ I mean this genuinely for anyone that is an Incel/Gamergater/Alt-righter.

Your actions hurt women, but ultimately you are hurting yourself more. I want you to be happy.

Please, find a therapist and start working on this stuff. It will be the best investment you’ve ever made.