Thread by @startupdaemon

Do you want to know why most relationshits and marriages fail? Because most people’s understanding of women (including most women’s) is at muck level.

Drop the pills.

This is not about humblebragging. If anything, it shows how (self-)damaged, arrogant and presumptuous I am.

Pill people and any half-decent PUA will tell you that, to be emotionally supportive of a woman (girlfriend), you need three ingredients:
· Feed her.
· Listen to her.
· Sex & cuddle her.

Great advice for a clueless 17yo, no judgement – you gotta start somewhere...

NEWSFLASH #1: WOMEN LOVE FOOD.

Especially delicious food. Which is why I often take my magic show to the kitchen or an under-the-radar restaurant that serves the shockingly Sublime.

Smell and taste are the most visceral of senses. (Pro Tip: Touch even more so, but trickier.)

NEWSFLASH #2: WOMEN LOVE ATTENTION.

Some more than others (as do men). The mechanism is simple: listening is attention is energy. You drain energy from any relationship you don't pay attention to.

Fighting is healthier than ignoring. You may think it's funny, and it's fact.

NEWSFLASH #3: WOMEN LOVE SEX.

For some less experienced and men "on the spectrum", this could be literal news, but get this.

Women have a deeper want for sex than men. Males can go on porning & masturbation; for most women sexlessness is deeply unsettling.

If you can sustain long-term on the feeding-listening-sexing formula, relationship-wise you just hit the jackpot of lo-awarenes.

The problem: most lo-awarenes people viscerally rebel against stunted bondage. They sabotage, break up, get divorced even if they don't know why.

The common narrative about every pick-up artist I know online and off?

1. They quit the game (at least publicly) and become serial monogamists.
2. They say they want/try to have longer-term relationships, but often can't.

The kicker: it's not because they had too much sex.

Growing together is what feeds lasting and fulfilling connection.

The growth connection is essential – no matter if a sexual relationship, business partnership, longtime friendship or whatever semantics you pick.

What is lo-awarenes doesn't grow. It metastasizes.

Helping someone grow requires a combination of tough honesty and gentle touch few possess or recognize as necessary.

Because society and the culture are so lo-awarenes it hurts.

When all you do is being "supportive", you end up being an enabler of bad habits and toxic baggage.

Bullshit culture tells you relationships run on people complementing each other.

How it usually works in real life?
– The "cute" quirks become nuisances & unbearable burdens, as people get bored with each other.

Because no growth, let alone complementary growth in alignment.

Confession: I haven't "dated" or been "in a relationship" in about 15 years.

I see women on and off, enjoy going out with some and/or have sex with them – and that's it.

Because an arrogant fuck.

I know "growth" won't be enough for me, I want someone who AMPLIFIES me. DAILY.

When I was a kid, I was terribly introverted and I had the social skills of a sharp and dense chunk of rock.

That was one reason I started digging deep into psychology.

Another was sex and the obvious fact that most people were clearly irrational and sleepwalking.

If you just PAY ATTENTION to people, you develop some High Awareness about insecurities & how to deal.

Yes, it takes years. And it looks like magic or a sixth sense to most.

Because even those who aren't sleepwalking are used to being surrounded by the mass of lo-awarenes.

When a woman I care about needs emotional support, I don't just do the prescribed listening & cuddling.

I "make the mistake" of addressing, say, the underlying insecurity.

Not by naive problem-solving. Indirectly – by finding the right approach and mental activation.

She worries about an upcoming exam/job interview?

I'm hugging & kissing her – while saying that if she failed, we should commit suicide together, THEN I'm going to break up with her.

With the right delivery, savage treatment of insecurity makes ambition & confidence go 🔥🔥🔥.

Many of you think having sex during menstruation creates a special bond, don't you? You won't believe what happens when you fuel her:
– unwinding some silly insecurity
– overcoming childhood trauma
– getting a raise or job she wants
– feeling more desired by the hour.

Breaking mental blocks isn't just a skill set. It's a filter – although not one I ever intended.

By the time I do something like this, women are convinced our thing is magical, I'm "the one" or some other bullshit from the culture.

They stop making an effort, I cut my losses.

When I'm "with" a woman, I pay attention to everything she does – from her shoes & makeup to her manners & work ethic.

Yeah, I'll totally grab your ass when you're putting on lipstick or working on your website.

Because it's your Power manifest, and that's a major turn-ON.

It's pretty simple really.

If you're not becoming a better version of yourself, how will you keep up with me?
If you don't put in the work every day, how will you push me to do the same?
If you’re stuck with lazy pop-culture nonsense, how will you ever AMPLIFY me?

To build a business, you need to innovate your skills, products, strategies.

To build a connection, you need to innovate yourself.

Both require awareness & deliberate effort – not some pop-culture BS.

Chemistry, genetics, sensuality – that's WHY we get it on, not HOW we keep it going.

The "magic" of making it grow & bloom is all hard work on oneself and each other.

You won't get that from the culture and you can't read it in the book, so sign up now.

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