Some of the garbage in your life is easy to tell – and dispose of.
But then there are the people who will say they love you and then proceed to sabotage you on a daily basis.
Out of their good intentions. Watch out for these behaviors.
But then there are the people who will say they love you and then proceed to sabotage you on a daily basis.
Out of their good intentions. Watch out for these behaviors.
1. Time-wasters will tawk forever about your dreams, what you want to achieve.
But they won't challenge you to acquire the necessary skills or push you to take real risks with real action.
You give them your time naively not realizing they're literally eating up your life.
But they won't challenge you to acquire the necessary skills or push you to take real risks with real action.
You give them your time naively not realizing they're literally eating up your life.
These people are energy vampires who will drain you, especially if you are an introvert.
Yea, it's good to have a sounding board to early-test your ideas.
But what use is it to spend hours with someone who never asks challenging questions? Cut them off & the daydreaming. MOVE.
Yea, it's good to have a sounding board to early-test your ideas.
But what use is it to spend hours with someone who never asks challenging questions? Cut them off & the daydreaming. MOVE.
2. Comforters will always find excuses for your failures. They will offer you "emotional support" but what use is that if you aren't growing?
The brutal facts?
They're feeding their own need to be needed, to be valued or whatever else helps their self-validation.
The brutal facts?
They're feeding their own need to be needed, to be valued or whatever else helps their self-validation.
To mature, you have to learn how to self-regulate without emotional transfusions from others.
People who prey on your feelings to validate their own fragile egos are the last ones you want involved in this process.
And don't forget con artists use this to approach victims.
People who prey on your feelings to validate their own fragile egos are the last ones you want involved in this process.
And don't forget con artists use this to approach victims.
3. False allies will often attack your (perceived) enemies to suck up to you.
Experienced con artists and propagandists will paint someone as a scapegoat to gain your trust and obedience.
Your energy ends up being drained with imagined or unnecessary conflicts.
Experienced con artists and propagandists will paint someone as a scapegoat to gain your trust and obedience.
Your energy ends up being drained with imagined or unnecessary conflicts.
Be very careful when someone claims to be protecting you from a third party.
More likely, they're protecting themselves from your critical thinking.
Deal with your enemies yourself, avoiding emotional debt to someone else.
More likely, they're protecting themselves from your critical thinking.
Deal with your enemies yourself, avoiding emotional debt to someone else.
4. Mindless promoters will tell you anything is possible if you just think positively.
They make you feel good by giving you an emotional taste of success - without doing the work it requires. So you never start, never do the work, never actually succeed.
Tune them out!
They make you feel good by giving you an emotional taste of success - without doing the work it requires. So you never start, never do the work, never actually succeed.
Tune them out!
5. Worriers won't just feed your fears, but seed new ones by asking you how you're doing every 5 minutes. They'll demand to talk over every risk & contingency.
The archetype of this pathology is the worrying mother. I know it because I have one.
MOVE OUT & FLOURISH.
The archetype of this pathology is the worrying mother. I know it because I have one.
MOVE OUT & FLOURISH.
