These are terms I just learned (over the last few months myself) that described succinctly, what the heck is going on with my brain.
To unpack these terms, I'm going to start you with Sappho.
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“Sweet mother, I cannot weave –
slender Aphrodite has overcome me
with longing for a girl.” –Sappho
To everyone, we've almost all been in this feeling. (i cannot speak for Ace)
Someone we see or meet, and their presence just #dazzles us into #malfunction (however brief)
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we #instinctually first consider, will #loving someone bring us #violence?
actually, back that train up.
Will #havingacrush bring us violence?
Are #feelings #safe?
we joke to take the edge off (see Tumblr)
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#fact, when i was just coming out to mum, a young lady was dragged aside by 3 men, they held her down, cut her arms, carved RIP DYKE into her stomach & amidst her sobbing & asking why, they said to her, "at least we're not raping you"-
all kinds of methods.
WHICH, brings me to the second term, #UselessLesbian. (i dont know the other terms, I am a lesbian, so this is the one I was given :) )
(ps, i wanna hear your terms :) tell me)
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I am having #gaypanic
I don't know what to do.
I can't assume anything or i'll be unsafe.
so... I guess they're being friendly with me?
(even if you're straight up making out)
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I don't much care for the term Useless, as we're damned handy to have around,
but it's a quick/easy phrase that
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get clear on who you are.
I am Trish. I bring this to #relationships. (make an actual list)
Get clear on what you will not accept. make another list.
and those are hard #boundaries.
PS this takes #time
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but, #itgetsbetter. I have seen it.
in the mean time, shining a light on the terms #GayPanic and #uselessLesbian, to share, what they are.
If u see it in u, you can deal with it.
#mentalhealthmatters #queerhealth
Apparently it was used to justify violence against queer people in a court of law.
welp...
my thread holds.
do your safety checks my sweeties.
and thank you kindly :)
#comingout #mentalhealthmatters