What makes #MeToo so difficult for millions of men? What is it about manhood in America that makes many of us angry and resentful of women's collective action against sexual assault? /1
The uncertainty and alarm #MeToo creates for many men is profound, lurching up from within our socially constructed identities, from within the process by which we experience and express who we are, and from within the structures by which we are assigned our status. /2
MeToo will go down in history as one of the most powerful cultural/political flashpoints in American history. Even as #MeToo calls out to our better angels, it compels men to fundamentally reassess everything we have taken for granted about our masculine identities /3
#MeToo is also the single conversation men most do NOT want to have. The dangers of acknowledging, much less advocating for women within our social networks is well known to us. /4
There are terrible and dark sides to the world of men, where alpha males display their strutting locker room dominance, daring any to challenge their open contempt for women, and then blithely heading home to their wives and daughters to sit down for Sunday dinner. /5
In this way, our man box culture has bullied men into averting our eyes from the ugly and abusive duality of our relationship to women. But it is precisely the dark disdain for women, threaded though our initiation into manhood, that has lead us all to #MeToo. /6
Even as man box culture condemns our own mothers, wives and daughters to second class status, it is also cheating men out of living fully authentic, connected lives. /7
The isolating impact of the man box is at the heart of men's epidemic levels of addiction, depression, violence and suicide. Until we wake up and understand that our disconnection in the world is quite literally killing us, it will continue to kill us every damn day. /8
Which is why this conversation about manhood has to happen. If we can not do this for ourselves, straddling what was and what is to come, uncertain of simple moral imperatives, angry and defensive, then we must do this for those we love. /9
We must find the courage to shift this culture for those close to us, for our children and grandchildren, who deserve to grow up in a world free of the brutal inequality that we, by our collective indecision, are maintaining. /10
We are confronting a moment of truth and that truth is based on a simple moral imperative: All men and women are created equal. /11
The false rape accusations issue is a smoke screen to sow uncertainty among men. Like any category of false criminal accusation, false rape allegations are very rare. It is designed to sow enough doubt that men remain silent. That's all abusers ask of us, to remain silent /12
Fact: Out of every 1000 instances of rape, 13 cases get referred to a prosecutor, and only 7 cases will lead to a felony conviction. Most rapists are not accused at all. rainn.org/articles/what-… … If you need help in US: National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) /13
If you're enraged at women and #MeToo out of fear of false rape allegations, you were already looking for something to be mad at women about. Being enraged about the very unlikely possibility of false rape allegations, instead of our epidemic of rape and assault is immoral. /14
Men are isolated, suffering, dying from lack of connection in the world. We are manipulated by those who leverage man box culture into attacking women, opposing progress and abusing each other. Turns out the war on women is a war on men. It's time to choose equality. /15
This thread is based on content from my newest book "The Little #MeToo Book for Men." Published this week, it's available on Amazon in Kindle and print format here: a.co/d/h8L8z9F Kindle version is available globally. The print version is in the US, Canada, and Europe. 
