There's a lot to respond to in this Meghan Daum essay on "toxic femininity" but this passage brings up something that's been bugging me ever since the Kavanaugh hearings. medium.com/s/powertrip/me… 
Essentially, this frames it as though Kavanaugh is entitled to the SC seat as long as there's a failure to prove beyond doubt that he assaulted Christine Blasey Ford. This is totally backwards. For that job, he should be able to prove beyond a doubt that he DIDN'T assault anyone.
Of course we cannot settle the ultimate truth of what happened, but a credible accusation of assault which Daum calls it, which Jeff Flake calls it, should be more than enough to disqualify someone from the freaking Supreme Court.
Daum thinks #believewomen strips "women of our complications and contradictions, and therefore our humanity," but it's the opposite. Dr. Blasey Ford's story was a full expression of how complicated these things are, how an incident Kavanaugh might not remember has haunted her.
