Thread by @jerichobrown

I really don’t understand the part of life where men (both straight and gay) get frustrated—angry really—about guys they deem feminine flirting with them...and then want to call me to complain about it like my job is to make them feel better about someone finding them attractive.

It’s really quite frustrating to find out that so much of your friends’ idea of their masculinity rests on the fear they might be associated with someone they don’t think is masculine. So weird!

And then I realize we’re signed to two very different contracts in our friendship. They call me expecting me to understand and agree that the awful thing about the day was a couple guys walking in front of them then looking back at in an aisle at CVS.

I mean I get these kinds of calls all the time, and I’m always thinking to myself that I love it when this happens to me without thinking I’m going to sleep with the guys. I feel like: yay a compliment/I must still look a little bit like something to see. 😂

I was at a card party recently where a guy who I thought was my friends asked someone to take a guest he brought home. He had decided that the guest was too ladylike to play spades with us. I was floooooored, not just about what had happened but also that he told ME proudly.

I’m like Jesus what’s wrong with me that this guy didn’t understand that he couldn’t tell me he had done something like this without getting cussed out, which I didn’t do because I was in his house. I told him I thought that shit was crazy and left. But damn!

The funny thing about it is: he thinks he’s masculine!!! He puts someone out of his house for bein too feminine and felt justified in doing so because he swear he masculine. Fascinating!!!

Of course all of this is on par w/ how so many gay guys are so ferociously angry about the existence of trans people. These people are not making life harder for anyone. The fear is that someone straight will lump us in with them and therefore hate us more...

But I don’t want to build my life around capitulation to a so-called dominant culture. And I don’t want to be fooled into respectability. Why so many gay guys feel the need to be accepted by straight people...I mean...I’m sorry but...look at these people’s lives...that’s better?!

I mean really if straight people’s church’s are the best of them and their porn is the dirty of them...well...umm...no thanks. I’ll just be over here not worried about your acceptance of me 🤣😂🤣😂

I do wish we didn’t hate each other so much. I wish sex, sexuality & femininity didn’t have so much to do with the terms of our various hatreds. Everybody should hang with whomever they want, but it’s a good idea to notice WHOSE very presence makes you uncomfortable...and...

And to ask yourself why you are made so uncomfortable by the fact of someone existing in front of you.