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(1) I read a tweet today that has me frustrated . . . the implication that women in the LDS church have large families because "what else are we going to do?". All due to the fact that the church only "scripts" women's lives from 8 to the bearing of children. 🙄.
(2) I am the mother of 9 children. I gave birth to all of them (no twins). I don't have one single regret about this choice. None. I only wish that I could have maybe had one more and made it an even 10. My children are amazing. I am grateful every day that I get to be their mom
(3) I am 52 year old life long member of the LDS Church and I have never felt there was a script for me to follow. Just to rely on the inspiration and guidance of the spirit in doing what was best for me. I went to college, served a mission,
(4) met my husband and got married. And prayed about having children and our future. And followed that inspiration. I never felt pressured into having a large family . . . I have always felt it was completely up to me and my husband to decide how many children we wanted.
(5) I still have "littles" at home because I was in my mid 40's before I finished having my children. I am happy and content with my life. Does that mean it has been easy? Nope. Does that mean that I was always sure I was headed in the right direction. Not always.
(6) Do I feel unfulfilled? Not one bit. I am a successful business woman with a thriving online business while still homeschooling my younger children and running a busy crazy household. I do volunteer work each week. I am busy and happy and I don't feel "less than" because
(7) I have lots of children. I am so grateful for them. I want them to know that I don't regret one minute of sacrifice in being their mother. I stand in awe daily of who they are becoming and the incredible spirits that they are. I also realize that other women in the church
(8) walk a different path or make different choices. And I do not judge those choices or those paths. So I am always amazed at the judgments and assumptions made about my family and our choices. If you have a problem with your choices . . . stop blaming the "Church" and look
(9) inward. If you feel pressure because of the "culture" of our church, then we can have that discussion and there are probably valid concerns within that context. But actual doctrine that says a woman has to do "this, and then this, and then this"? Nope. Stop it. That is
(10) simply not true. Stop implying that women with lots of children had them because "she didn't have anything else to do". Stay in your lane and don't speak for me.
