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All companies have good orgs and bad orgs, great managers and terrible ones. I had the misfortune of falling into a terrible one. But many other women at the company ended up in great management chains and have had successful careers. There’s a lesson here.
It’s important not to limit yourself by labeling companies as all “good” or all “bad.” These tech giants are huge. They contain multitudes. You can end up at a “great” company with a shitty, backstabbing manager. And you can miss excellent teams because of blacklisting the co.
When I started dating again after my divorce, I covered my profiles with walls and filters to try to keep “the wrong one out.” But the. I realized I was probably screening out Right Ones, too. And the walls were costing me a LOT of energy to erect and maintain.
I realized I can’t distill the complexity of human interaction down to a series of case statements and branching logic.
Wouldn’t it be more effective, efficient and thorough if rather than investing in filters, I thought, if I just got better at spotting who is not good for me and get good at moving on fast from those relationships?
Right now I’m focusing learning two things: how to deliver a positive “no” and how to let go of such “great opportunities.”
I’m also learning how to spot when something is not the right fit for me early, before I end up thrown under.
These skills are what you need to succeed.
I’m also learning how to spot when something is not the right fit for me early, before I end up thrown under.
These skills are what you need to succeed.
The suitors aren’t all going to be worthy of your love. The managers won’t always have your back or grow you.
Some will be outright abusive.
You have to learn to sort the wheat from the chaff, pivot when things go tits up, and how to put yourself first always and forever.
Some will be outright abusive.
You have to learn to sort the wheat from the chaff, pivot when things go tits up, and how to put yourself first always and forever.
Be vulnerable. Be fierce. Take chances but know when to fold.
Get yours and do not settle for less.
Get yours and do not settle for less.
It will hurt. All things worth having have pain attached. But you cannot hide from pain and make progress in the world.
Mill the deck to get to the cards you need. Don’t be afraid to mulligan if your hand is shit.
But don’t limit yourself.
This world wants you to say no to good opportunities. It wants you small, meek, non-threatening—not competing for resources it doesn’t consider you “good enough” for.
Don’t give this world that.
This world wants you to say no to good opportunities. It wants you small, meek, non-threatening—not competing for resources it doesn’t consider you “good enough” for.
Don’t give this world that.
