Thread by @AtelierHeidi

Okay, Holly's Twitter thread is full of lies. She's exaggerating, twisting details, and taking Jared's word on a lot of stuff and running with it.

But most importantly, the heart of her argument is "I was just helping my friend leave his awful wife.... by having sex with him"

As far as I can tell the whole point of these posts is to make me look bad? She's not adding clarity to her decision to secretly sleep with a married man, she's just saying, "look how awful his wife was"

As far as my supposed "long term boyfriend" goes, she is assuming a LOT. During the time Jared and I explored polyamory, I was long- distance messaging someone in another state. I ended that MYSELF when I told Jared that I needed to ask him for monogamy after he'd broken my trust

I wanted to leave that person out of this because it's super irrelevant. I took steps to be fully transparent with Jared, make sure he knew he was always my first priority, and that he could expect the truth from me.

I never had anything to hide from Jared, period.

Nothing I found on Jared's phone was illegally obtained. My lawyer assured me of that. It's community property, purchased during our marriage, unlocked in the house. I picked it up and discovered horrifically explicit proof of their ongoing affair. That they were lying about.

They wanna catch me on a technicality "oh you shouldn't have looked!"

I'm grateful I looked. If I hadn't looked, I would have left this marriage crushed but the belief that what Jared and Holly say about me is true.

It's all their excuse for fucking.

I never pretended to be blameless. What I DID say is that I made every effort to communicate with Jared and correct my mistakes. During that time he was intensely gaslighting me, lying to me, and giving me the silent treatment EVERY time I tried to have an earnest conversation

What Holly saw, and the rest of Jared's friends saw, were my frustrations boiling over after days, weeks, months of silent treatment and neglect from Jared. He broadcasted my frustrations, and acted like they came from nowhere. To support his narrative that I'm a bad person.

And that's exactly what Holly's doing now. She opens up talking about how good her intentions are, then devolves into a rambling mess about how I'm a terrible person and that's the whole point.

She's justifying her behavior with a smear campaign. Take that as you will.