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Relationships too follow the hierarchy of needs theory. Maybe it is true women want money from men. Could it be that most are at level zero.... Need for food and clothing?
One can only think of a higher need once they satisfy a basic need. It will be hard to impress someone just because you are good looking or good character, if their basic need food is not met
Once food housing and clothing is met. a normal human being starts looking for extra qualities. That's when she realizes you are not her type. Maybe she got a job to provide those where you were strongly needed
The hierarchy of needs means that your desires and aspirations are likely to change as you grow. Your tastes and preferences for a man or woman you want changes over time.
Most people don't invest in their ultimate aspirations, they date or marry as per the level of need today.
Like she wants a man who can provide.
He just wants a woman.
Like she wants a man who can provide.
He just wants a woman.
After a short period of time, she wants one who can provide and caring (character). He now realizes this one can't even reason, he needs something. More beautiful
By the time people reach the level of self actualization, they have made several transformations, they have called several marriages mistakes, they have cheated in the name of finding what they want
The disconnect comes when ones needs are changing and the partners needs are stagnated. She is stuck at provision, you have moved to self actualization.
Ladies argue that they support a man only to look for another woman. Its because he is a CEO now and he feels he should be interacting with CEOs.
Men argue that they educate a woman she goes. Its because you are stuck at providing food and sex, but she has moved to a level of reasonable men who can engage in valuable discussion
People in relationships are like marketers and consumers, companies keep innovating in order to keep up with the changing needs of the customer. You need personal growth to meet changing needs of your partner
Marriage is not like buying a vitz then later upgrading to a Prado, its like investigating in a house whose design can be modified by just addition of few rooms without pulling the house down.
*investing in a house
The disconnect in hierarchy of needs in a relationship is what eventually is called irreconcilable differences. One partner is stuck at level 1 struggling to pull each other up while pulling another down = divorce
Now those who don't want to divorce, will marry another woman, but women are not allowed to marry many men, she can only cheat and come back to your house or leave to live on her own and have as many
By now I hope you understand why relationships are unpredictable, why your girlfriend for 5yrs left you. It means one was growing faster than the other.
Finally invest in things that can finally make sense in. 20-30yrs, investing in basic needs and basic product attributes has never sustained a company, it. Won't sustain your relationship
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