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1. Hello and welcome! It’s episode 266 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr. & Mrs. Better Half is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word. 
2. In the last episode, we discussed the topic, “Piece it together: dealing with brokenness.” Missed it? Catch up here: bit.ly/2m6IS09 #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. This week’s topic is “Soul Prosperity: A Key to Enjoying your Married and Single Life”. To live your best life, you must be balanced in every area of your life. This has a ripple effect on your relationships and emotional wellbeing. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. Do you know that God wants you to live your best life in every regard? When God looks at you, He wants to see that you are enjoying the wholeness of the spirit, soul and body. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. Human beings operate in different dimensions: the spiritual, (which is the core), the emotional, social, physical, intellectual and so on. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. A lot of times, one may pay attention to one dimension than the others. E.g. As much as spiritual prosperity is great, you shouldn’t achieve that to the detriment of your emotional, physical or social dimensions. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. Romantically, people tend to first engage each other in one plane. Think about it; what first attracted you to your mate? For many people, it was the physical first and other things after. #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. For some other people, they were attracted by the intellect. For some other people, it was the spiritual. They liked the person’s devotion to God and to service. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. While all these things are good, in isolation, they are insufficient to keep a relationship healthy. After all, who wants to live with a spirit all the time? #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. As a pastor, I can testify that my wife does not want the preacher at home. She wants a friend, confidant, provider and good father for our kids. As a result, I must pay attention to other aspects apart from the spiritual. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. The same thing goes with physical attraction. After the beauty and chemistry and good sex, there is still a lot of life to be lived. If you are unprepared for the other aspects of life, you will struggle in your relationship. #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. The truth is that while it is normal to first engage on one plane, we must be deliberate about cultivating meaningful connections on the other planes of life. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. Today we will focus on soul prosperity because this is one area people tend to breeze over when it comes to marriage and relationships. How healthy is your soul? How healthy are you emotionally? #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. Your personal health will affect your spouse or potential spouse. If you are out of touch with your emotions, are overly emotional, or can’t connect with others in a healthy manner, you jeopardize your chances of a good relationship. #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. If you are a Christian or consider yourself a ‘spiritual person’, I want you to really pay attention today. God wants your soul prosperous as well as your spirit. (3 John 1:2) #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. I have seen couples who are tongue-talking and demon-chasing leave their marriages for the simple reason that they were unhappy. They were spiritual but had no emotional joy in their marriage. There was no emotional bond. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. Please understand that marriage is spiritual, but it is expressed emotionally. Bonding relies on the capacity to be vulnerable, dependent and open to someone. That’s all emotional. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. Men, don’t brush this off as ‘feminine talk’. While some women tend to express their emotions better than men, it takes two to build a good marriage. Your marriage can’t survive on your wives’ emotions alone. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. In church we are wired more to pay attention to how people fare spiritually, but we need to ensure that the other areas are also important. What shows that your spiritual life is authentic is that there is a balance in every area. #MrMrsBetterHalf
20. Even if marriage isn’t what you’re focused on, know that being emotionally unhealthy will affect bonding with your friends, future spouse, colleagues and other meaningful relationships. #MrMrsBetterHalf
21. Singles, the time to address your emotional health is now; not when you’re about to get married. You should also be on the lookout for this kind of balance in a future spouse. #MrMrsBetterHalf
22. When seeking a life partner, be careful that you aren’t painting unrealistic expectations or pictures of what an emotionally-healthy/ideal spouse looks like. Emotional underdevelopment is not so obvious when we first meet people. #MrMrsBetterHalf
23. For those who tend to be blown away by appearances of spirituality, here are some symptoms of emotionally-unhealthy spirituality to pay attention to in yourself and in your spouse/potential mate: #MrMrsBetterHalf
24. A) Doing for God instead of being with God. Do you know that being an active church worker doesn’t mean that you have an intimate relationship with God? God is looking for sons and daughters, not employees. #MrMrsBetterHalf
25. If your whole life is about doing for God, you are missing out on a genuine emotional connection with your father. God wants your heart more than your hands. #MrMrsBetterHalf
26. You know the truth? Loving God means loving people. Jesus was very social and relatable. He was demonstrative of His emotions be they love, anger or sadness. Beyond preaching the gospel, He forged relationships. Be like Jesus. #MrMrsBetterHalf
27. B) Spiritualizing away conflict - ignoring anger, sadness, fear and other emotions by sweeping them under the carpet. Some people feel that showing emotion is unspiritual. This is not true. #MrMrsBetterHalf
28. Think of Jesus, David, Moses, Jeremiah, Abraham and several other people in the Bible. They were not afraid to cry out to God when they felt hurt, angry and disappointed. God is big enough to handle your emotions and to heal and comfort you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
29. Some people feel that a home is ideal when there are no arguments or conflict. Something is amiss because no 2 humans will agree on everything. If there is no conflict at all, it means there’s also no honesty. #MrMrsBetterHalf
30. When you disagree with your spouse or anyone for that matter, speak up. Sweeping everything under the carpet will eventually weigh the relationship or marriage down so much that it will implode. #MrMrsBetterHalf
31. Speaking up gives room for you to grow in the areas of communication, conflict resolution, open-mindedness and even empathy. #MrMrsBetterHalf
32. C) Denying the impact of the past on the present. Overly spiritual people like to wave away the past with spiritual jargon. Understand that if you do not heal from the past, it will always affect your present. #MrMrsBetterHalf
33. Imagine your spouse/friend hurts you and you refuse to acknowledge the hurt. All you say is, ‘it doesn’t matter. I’m fine. S/he didn’t hurt me.’ Yet you become distant and the relationship becomes strained. #MrMrsBetterHalf
34. Spiritual bravado just puts a band-aid on the wound. Why not acknowledge the hurt, take it before God, confront the person or situation and get healed from it? Revealing your feeling is the beginning of healing. #MrMrsBetterHalf
35. D) Dividing life into “secular” and “sacred” compartments. Our core is spiritual, you cannot choose when to be spiritual and when to be unspiritual. There is no spiritual and secular life, there is only one life to live. #MrMrsBetterHalf
36. E) Living without limits - not placing boundaries in your life. You can’t do everything or meet everyone’s needs. You need to pay attention to your limits and to yourself because relationships will test your limits. #MrMrsBetterHalf
37. When we say, ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me’, make sure that you are actually doing the things that Christ has strengthened you to do. God hasn’t sent you to do all things. Do your own part; you are not the almighty. #MrMrsBetterHalf
38. Having a balanced perspective to boundaries will help you forge healthy relationships and marriages. In addition, you will live longer! People crash because they take on too much. We all need to increase our emotional intelligence. #MrMrsBetterHalf
39. You have what it takes to be solid – you just need to be conscious about it. Make time to be better, to do better. Don’t let life just happen to you, be aware and decide what you’re the quality of your life will be. #MrMrsBetterHalf
40. I hope this has been helpful to you. I will be back next week with another topic. Until then, thanks for following, participating an RTing. May your marriages and relationships be sweet! #MrMrsBetterHalf
