"How would it come up?" People talk about their family. It's never the go-to anecdote for where someone learned a trick, or what the week's gaseous or spatial anomaly reminds someone of from back home.
No one talks about summer at great-great-grandpop's farm, or great-grandma who's a freighter pilot.
Objection entirely withdrawn, and I'm adding "holodeck = bloodsport for population control" to my list of dystopian Federation headcanons.