Thread by @TarynDeVere

I love my trans kid for the exact same reasons I love my cis kids.
Why would what name she wants to be called change the love I have for her?
Why would pronouns affect my love?
Why would what gender she identifies with change my heart's knowing?
All those things are irrelevant.

I realised within hours that I have very little attachment to what gender my kids are.
It isn't important to me.
I didn't have a boy's life mapped out for her, I just want her to be happy. I find other parents attachment to the gender of their kids to be a bit alarming.

It says "my love for my child is conditional upon my child presenting in certain ways that fit my idea of a gender binary."

Don't get me wrong, my love for my kids is conditional, but it's conditional upon them being decent humans not on how they look or what their name is.

Because that's my values. The world doesn't need more shitty, unaware people. I actively choose not to have those kind of people in my life.
I can't imagine choosing not to have someone in my life (least of all my own child) just because I don't like their gender.

That's why I find parents who don't support their trans or non binary children to be very strange and sad. They're making a choice to value gender over their own fucking kid.
A concept over a human.
It's incredibly dehumanising.

I wouldn't accept those conditions from a partner.
Partners who try to police their spouse's clothing, identity and pronouns are rightly seen as domestic abusers.
Parents who try & force their children to be something they're not are imo abusing their children.

Why do we have such low expectations from parents? Why does the parental "right" to suppress their child's identity trump a child's right to identity?
It's ideology over humanity.
No idea should ever be given greater value than a human life.