For women to succeed "outside the home" (ie as anything other than wives & moms) we have to let "inside the home" go, to some degree.
We aren't going to neglect our kids, so housework falls off...
When someone walks into my home and sees kid crap everywhere, they don't wonder why my husband is slacking. It ALWAYS turns on me.
The judgment goes directly onto me. Like I shouldn't be working so much or shouldn't be so lazy.
The dirty house-shaming is GARBAGE that hurts women.