YES. (Ranted about this a while back: )
The thing is, we’re never going to have a healthy, rather than coercive, approach to forgiveness as a society until we develop a healthy attitude toward screwing up, one that centers around accountability but isn’t catastrophic/absolutist.
It’s why we’re so bad at actual apologies. It’s why we double down when called out. It’s why we have no idea how to integrate someone back in after they’ve screwed up.
And yeah, I blame Christianity and the idea that ANY sin makes you deserving of hell.
Like, WHAT? Baffling.
So it’s this binary attitude: ANY screw-up is awful. Argue that you didn’t screw up, and/or implicitly demand forgiveness.
Like, WHAT? Baffling.
So it’s this binary attitude: ANY screw-up is awful. Argue that you didn’t screw up, and/or implicitly demand forgiveness.
But speaking as an adult human being, your average screw-up isn’t the end of the world.
You’re not going to hell for it.
You might not get forgiven, in which case the knowledge that you’re not SHOULD bother you enough to help you not do it again.
You’ll live, I promise.
You’re not going to hell for it.
You might not get forgiven, in which case the knowledge that you’re not SHOULD bother you enough to help you not do it again.
You’ll live, I promise.
