1/ For almost two years, the therapist @LoriGottlieb1 has been answering reader questions about their problems, big and small, in her series ‘Dear Therapist.’ The collection of articles below features advice about family, relationships, work, and more:
@LoriGottlieb1 2/ January: One reader was having trouble adjusting to negative feedback at work. “What you heard at work wasn’t criticism,” Gottlieb suggested, “but an invitation.” bit.ly/2ZFVgUD
3/ February: “[My son is] white, male, upper-middle-class—and that is the problem," one reader wrote. “Help to disabuse him of these faulty notions,” Gottlieb said, “and explain to him that college is about the right fit, not the most prestigious name.” bit.ly/35aIgYl
4/ March: When a couple’s birth control methods failed, a man felt trapped between two very bad alternatives. Gottlieb suggested it's more about the process of making the decision that matters, than the decision itself. bit.ly/354bFmY
5/ April: One reader expressed that her boyfriend’s mother is “self-aggrandizing and mean,” and wondered how they could coexist. Gottlieb encouraged the reader to reflect not on her relationship with her boyfriend’s mother, but that with her boyfriend. bit.ly/2ZD7BZC
6/ May: A parent wonders how she can support her gay daughter and talk to her about sex. Gottlieb’s advice: Opening up conversations early and often will communicate respect. bit.ly/36aLdtk
7/ June: “It is really hard for me to listen to [my friends] complain about their spouses or significant others when I am fighting hard to accept being single,” one reader wrote. An unfamiliar term might help her express her frustrations: ambiguous grief. bit.ly/2F26Pfx
8/ July: A mother of twin boys was having trouble watching her sons face conflict at school. “Their growing independence is on display,” Gottlieb wrote, “and that can leave parents with a mixture of pride and grief.” bit.ly/35b6GAQ
9/ August: Gottlieb helped a reader think through how to both support and also respect the wishes of their friend dying of cancer. bit.ly/2F6jwG6
10/ September: When a reader found his therapist on Grindr, Gottlieb suggested a frank conversation about the incident might help them build a better therapeutic relationship. bit.ly/2ZIJpp2
11/ October: A reader’s girlfriend had an affair with his co-worker. While he could forgive her, he couldn’t forgive him. Why? “Seeing your co-worker is a traumatic trigger for the actual issue: betrayal,” Gottlieb wrote. bit.ly/2ZD7WeQ
12/ November: “I’m a 65-year-old man. I am gay but have never admitted this to anyone,” one reader wrote. “I think you wrote to me because what’s worked in the past—stifling your desires—is no longer working,” Gottlieb replied. bit.ly/2F7xp6O
13/ December: A reader’s son’s mental-health problems are affecting the whole family. Gottlieb shared with the reader what patients with depression have told her they wished their families knew: bit.ly/2rJeVqm
14/14 Want more advice from @LoriGottlieb1? You can access the full Dear Therapist archives here: bit.ly/2rGK79J
