Thread by @ArmaniTalks

Your body is the main compass when deciding whether someone is toxic or not.

Do you feel energized or drained?

Ask yourself that.

A lot of times we can't notice toxicity when it's staring at us, because our love for the toxic creature overrides judgment.

The body don't lie...

There are 2 types of toxic people:

1. They don't want the best for you.

2. They want the best for you.

'There are toxic people who want the best for me?'

Sure.

1. They don't want the best for you.

This group sometimes is maliciously against you.

And other times they are just putting their best interests above yours. You just happen to be getting in the way.

Regardless, they pull a move which hurts your sense of self.

Your body has 3 main components of feelings.

Expressive, inhibitory, stagnant.

Expressive = Joy.

Stagnant = Bored or 0 flux.

Inhibitory = Fear.

When someone hits your identity, your body tenses up & feels fear.

Which is why you often feel drained.

Gotta watch out for these people.

Sometimes they talk shit with a smile on their face.

And pass it off as 'jokes.'

2. They want the best for you.

This one is a tad bit tricky.

And this form of toxicity mainly applies to people who are self-improving in one facet of their life.

So if you aren't aiming for anything, then ignore

When you begin leveling up, you make a shocking realization.

'Which is?'

Most people are just day by day kinda people.

Not much goals or ambitions.

Not hating on them though. Let them do what makes them feel happy

But as a person leveling up, you have to follow some sort of discipline.

Which is why your circle gets smaller the more you improve.

These group of people has mad love for you.

But most of their activities are centered around getting fucked up, gossip, whining about their day etc.

If you are someone who is leveling up, you will often feel drained after spending too much time with them.

Group 1, cut ties with. They may keep throwing you under the bus.

If you want to forgive later, do what you need.

But just understand that people don't change overnight.

They change over time.

Group 2, distance from them.

They mean well & have your back in this noisy world.

But your time is limited.

Gotta use that time wisely on your north star.

If they are your true friends, they will understand.

Your body always seems to know what you want.

Can't quite put my finger on it.

As a logical engineer most of my life, i didn't know what that meant.

But after doing body meditations, sitting thru pain and following my hunches, i understand what it means.

You may as well.

Logic helps, but the body can serve as a great compass.

Use judgment as well.

Sometimes your body will tense up to prevent growth.

For example, you will feel fear when tackling something that scares you.

And if you have an untamed ego, your body will tense up from criticism

That's why judgment is so important.

Don't let your 'gut instinct' make a coward out of you.

Sometimes your body feels drained when your mind wants to grow.

Push past that & your body will adjust.

But with people, you need self awareness.

Self awareness will have you understanding when someone is wasting your time.

And self awareness is built from a grand goal & an ongoing journey to make a sense of your past.

We all get backstabbed by people that we trust.

That isn't necessarily your fault.

A lot of snakes have supreme charisma & social intelligence.

But it is your fault when you don't learn the lessons.

'How come some people keep going back to the same toxic person?'

Because of familiarity & disjointed thinking.

Humans like familiar creatures.

And the more familiar the more they confuse toxicity as unconditional love.

Disjointed thinking happens when your body feels fear or tense.

Try thinking in a logical format when your heart is beating super fast.

Not too easy.

That's when slowing down your breath is your best friend.

Anyways, your body is your best friend when deciding if a human is empowering you or draining you.

Listen to it.

And use your past snake bites as knowledge to equip you for the future.

Your body is smarter than you think. The primal intellect.

Will be a shame if you never learn to use it.

Aka intuition....

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