Thread by @GbengaWemimo

She reminded herself over and over again as she got dressed to go and meet with him in his hotel she had nothing to lose
It could be friendship, a one night stand, or a short term relationship
She knew it couldn’t be marriage and
she had resolved not to do the emotional thing

With men again!
She had always been on the losing end!
Since she was sixteen when she started dating and twenty-two when she started having sex until she was thirty five
She had lost count of all the men that had come across as real prospects and left her hugging her pillow with

Tears!
She wanted to get married
She needed to get married
She hated being alone
And yet, as good as God has been to her in other aspects of her life, she was a total joke when it came to picking the right man!
She always ended up getting dumped!
When she was younger, she would

Shrug it off but as she grew older it became a concern!
She never dated anybody for more than six months
Something would always happen
Somebody would see a vision
He would travel abroad
He would meet another babe
They would have sex and he would vanish into thin air
It was always

Something or the other
The last experience she had, she met the guy at her church
He was pleasant and seriously looking to settle down
She really liked him
They dated for six months
One evening he called her to call the relationship off
That was their best week together ever! She

Called him to ask why he was dumping her
He told her he always felt unsettled around her
He couldn’t explain the feeling but he would advise her to do something about it!
She told him she would do whatever he wanted but they really do not need to break up
He told her it was over

Just like that!
She went to her mother in tears
“Mummy, why are you looking at my life as if you do not care? Other mothers would make inquiries for their daughters, other mothers would pray for their daughters, other mothers would care about their daughter being single at this

Age!
But you don’t show any concern about my situation!
I had become the laughing stock of the community
Why aren’t you doing anything to help me?
Her mother was shocked at her outburst
But her mother was not really moved
Her mother told her to sit down
Her mother said “You will

Never be married!
I have gone to many places for
Consultation on your matter! Jut as my mother went to make consultations on my issue too!
I was told we are (Afomo) meaning mistletoes in our family!
We grow at the most unexpected places and thrive but only as parasites
Have you

Ever seen any member of our family get married and settle down to bear the name of a man?
Did I not get pregnant with you for a married man the same way my mother got pregnant with me for a married man?
I have brought you up to be independent and you have a good job!
When you are

Ready to have a child
Get pregnant for a man and bring the child home
We have everything it takes to raise a child
That is how many of us in this life are
Our destinies are different
Once you know the things you can have and cannot have, you will no longer waste time pinning
Wow

Her mother had never said a word to her!
She had introduced several boyfriends to her mother hoping that the guys will see it as a sign of her seriousness and stay!
They never did!
She wished her mother had told her the truth before then
But she had always desired to be married!

Her mother was a single parent and she really did the best she could to train her and raise her right
But she had never seen herself as complete without a man!
She wanted her own husband
She really wanted to get married!
But her mother’s words made sense, she had never ever seen

Any of their relatives who was married!
The males have children with someone and the females also have children with someone!
She had done three abortions because she didn’t want that life for herself!
But she knew somehow that her mother had told her the hard truth!
It hurts!

She decided to pick a man to get pregnant with
She had always had severa married men making overtures at her
If she was going to eat a frog, she would patiently select one that had extra incentives!
After a lot of soul searching, she arrived at a candidate
He was tall and had a

Very mild temperament!
She didn’t tell him her plans
She wanted to get pregnant first and then inform him of her decision to keep and raise the child by herself!
She told her mother all about it
Her mother told her she was in full support!
She sent her target a text message

He called back within minutes
His bait had finally caught her fish
He asked her where they should meet
She told him a nearby restaurant
They met and talked
They agreed to meet a hotel the following day and have some fun
She would be ovulating on that day
It was very strategic

She got back home
Her former boyfriend called
He said he met someone he would like her to talk to
He said he had taken the liberty of sending her phone number to the person
The person is not a pastor
He was just a brother who shares stories on Twitter!
She thanked him and dropped

The call!
Her phone rang a few minutes later
It was the brother in Jeans and T-shirt
He said somebody sent him a DM on Twitter that she needed help
He asked her how he could be of help!
She really didn’t want to say anything
This was a total stranger at the end of the phone call!

But she talked
She asked him a lot of questions
Eventually she felt comfortable enough and told him how she always had the worst possible luck with men
She also told him about her mother’s revelation
But she didn’t say anything about her plans and the man she was stringing along

He told her it was impossible for her to be a mistletoe!
Mistletoes are parasitic plants that grows off trees, you are a human being!
Your mother had lied to you! He concluded
She told him about all her relatives and how nobody ever got engaged not to talk of getting married!

He just laughed and laughed
He said “I can prove that you are not a mistletoe and that nobody was made to be a mistletoe but the mistletoe itself
How? She asked him
Are you a believer? He asked her
She told him she became an emergency believer because of a brother she once dated

But it didn’t work out and she now went to church only once in a while!
He led her to Christ and prayed with her that God will settle her in her own home within the next nine months!
She said “Amen”
He rang off!
The next day she dressed very well and set out for the hotel

She got to the hotel’s restaurant on time
They had agreed to meet for 5pm
She waited for him
She called his phone numbers
His phones were switched off
At about 7pm, she went to the restroom to freshen up and took her leave
Just as she was getting to her car, a man approached her

The man wanted her phone number
When she got home, the man called
They started chatting at about 10pm that night and they chatted all night
He came into Lagos for a business
He was lodged in that hotel
He asked her to come and see him
the next day
She got to the hotel at 7pm

He met her at the restaurant
They ate and talked
He saw her off at 9pm
Later that night, he invited her over again
They ate and talked
He told her he was a farmer
He was in the hotel for a meeting with some clients but the clients had been delayed for three days
He just needed

Some human company!
He wa bored sitting alone in his room and when he saw her in the restaurant that first day he assumed she was on a date until she started to leave!
She told him she came to the hotel for a date and got stood up
Somehow they connected
He had his meeting the

Next day and returned to Akure
They kept chatting and calling each other
He returned to Lagos a month later and told her he wanted to marry her
She didn’t tell anybody
She was sure he was lying and would run away
Mistletoes do not get permanent homes
He didn’t run away!
Wow!

They got married on February 17, 2019 in Lagos!
God has blessed their union with a baby boy!

Ps: There are a lot of things people say that makes me wonder if they really have any sense!
A man once told me human kind cane from Rock, Clay, Sand and water!
He was an educated guy

I had to just shake my head
You are made by God, created only His image
You are crowning glory of all his creations and he rated you more highly than angels
If you are a born again Christian, you are of a different species entirely in your glory!
As God has defined you, so be!